Addicted to porn!

I think I am addicted to porn and can think only bdsm to come. I have a normal life otherwise and have a good sex life with my husband. I am a normal parent, manage home well. Is this bad, this addiction?

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Anonymous
June 7, 2017

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Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:21 am
Tina June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Thanks! *p*

Tina June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

This is a relief! *p*

Tina June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Interesting point! Yes that is not how normal sex life goes…*p*

Tina June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

He has no clue of this side to me…what if he freaks out? *p*

DEVRAJ KALSI June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Anything that happens between two consenting adults in a marriage or in a relationship is healthy and normal. When it comes to porn, people tend to derive pleasure from something not experienced/viewed before. You have a satisfactory sex life with your spouse, and if you still crave for BDSM variety to come, you need not nurse any guilt. Continue with your smut and keep enjoying everything – as much you can. It is safer than adultery and not sinful at all!  *p*

Ankit June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

The addiction will hurt you. Quit porn or it has the potential to ruin your sex life. The level of expectation goes beyond possible. Remember you are a normal couple while those in porn are performers and it cannot be matched. *p**p*To save your sex life quit porn immediately. *p*

Dr. Sharmila Majumdar June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

BDSM is about sexual intensity; it is not about making love. BDSM sex is unapologetically sex concerned with generating intense sensual experiences; it is sex for pleasure (even if the definition of what is pleasurable is defined in oddball ways). This makes it different than a lot of marital and committed relationship sex, which is equal parts sex for pleasure, and sex for bonding, with a sprinkle of sex for reproduction thrown in here and there. If you have issues with sex for pure pleasure (and many of us do because that is what our Conservative culture teaches us to do) then BDSM will appear to be perverse.*p**p*I have always used a simple and basic rule, which I picked up sometime during my medical years, for this question:*p**p*If it gets in the way of your normal daily life then it is a problem, if it doesn't then it isn't.*p**p*However you need to also reflect on how your partner will react to it should he know or you decide to tell him. Once that is sorted and hopefully your opinions match you can be at peace and also probably indulge in it as a couple.*p*

Waseem Imam Saheb June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Every kind of addiction whether be to alcohol or drugs or as in your case porn can have negative implications on ones life as well as the lives of loved ones. But firstly i must commend you on realizing you have a problem. That is the first step in the road to curbing an addiction.  You need to examine what is about the sexual act that gets you excited to try it and if you have an open and honest communication with your husband you can try and communicate this kind of need and then maybe your can try it together. There isnt anything wrong in wanting to be sexually adventurous with ur partner or spouse. A healthy sex life can sustain a marriage. However if the porn addiction is fueling you to engage outside of your relationship it will be a problem… try and be concious as to how the porn you are viewing is making you think and also limit your viewing of porn to the point where you wouldnt need it… ultimately its always best to seek professional help discreetly ofcourse with a recovery coach *p*

Waseem Imam Saheb June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

As another commenter suggested … test the waters with him first … watch maaya or fifty shades of grey with him and see his reaction- make it a date night of sorts and let it become a ritual and let it in end the bedroom… atleast it will create a nice healthy dialogue between you … from there on out you can decide what to do next… *p**p* *p**p*again you need to examine what it is these porn movies are making you think and want… *p**p* *p**p*if it is making you compare both your self and your husband in negative ways you need to distance yourself from it… *p**p* *p**p*from there on out its best to seek the help of a profession counsellor *p*

Ketan Mehta June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

As per my view, watching porn is not bad but addiction of anything including porn is bad.. *p*

Hridaan June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Maybe it is. It is okay to watch it occasionally but as you are saying you are getting addicted to it, it is not a good sign. Try to regulate it. *p*

Ayushi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Until and unless you can strike a balance and keep the porn away from your sexual life and other life roles, it's fine. Because porn is something where you find any insight. It's just for enjoyment. Sexual enjoyment to be precise. And we should it just like that. A fantasy for the fantasy. :D*p*

TuliBanerjee June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

May be you have heard of it and read about it recently, hence these thoughts are coming to you. Check out Vikram Bhatt's web series called Maaya – on Youtube.com. It might answer a lot of your queries.*p*

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