Alone and Single at 50! Do we really need a partner for our later years or we can just about go through the remaining years just as easily?

I have been pondering on this for a while now…How does one keep the same energy and zest for life in the later years? Do we need a Partner or we can make it without one?

29 replies
Arti Ohri
June 7, 2017

29 comments

Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:21 am
Preeti June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

A lot depends on family support system, your emotional needs and your work status. Not having a spouse but having kids and other family would make you less needy to have another person.*p**p*But IMHO, we all need a companion, more so as we grow older. Having said that, I have friends who are equally content being single. Only you can decide for yourself, what works for you.*p*

Antara Majumder June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Totally your choice! Nevertheless, a support system, be it family, spouse or friend is always advantageous.*p*

Sukanya June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

We probably need a companion. It does not have to be a partner. It can be family member, a dear friend or a sibling. Anyone. Because loneliness is too much to handle when you are getting old and weak. If you can get a partner who is like minded, go for it. Or get a good friend. And stay happy *p*

DrSanjeevTrivedi June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Need for companionship grows with old age but not necessary one has to have a partner. *p*

ManjariPandey June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

This depends on your choice whether you want to follow a tradition or you want to set your own tradition. Do you feel need of a partner? If yes matrimonial sites can surely help. But if you are just concerned about what others are predicting about you latter life conditions, I would suggest you to ignore. Married women may also be as loanly as you are. Buy a mug, a handbag and a wall paper stating "happily unmarried" and smile at your self dependency. Even if you chose to marry a man at this age, feel like 26 and cherish your changed relationship status to the fullest. *p*

ManjariPandey June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

This depends on your choice whether you want to follow a tradition or you want to set your own tradition. Do you feel need of a partner? If yes matrimonial sites can surely help. But if you are just concerned about what others are predicting about you latter life conditions, I would suggest you to ignore. Married women may also be as loanly as you are. Buy a mug, a handbag and a wall paper stating "happily unmarried" and smile at your self dependency. Even if you chose to marry a man at this age, feel like 26 and cherish your changed relationship status to the fullest. *p*

ManjariPandey June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

This depends on your choice whether you want to follow a tradition or you want to set your own tradition. Do you feel need of a partner? If yes matrimonial sites can surely help. But if you are just concerned about what others are predicting about you latter life conditions, I would suggest you to ignore. Married women may also be as loanly as you are. Buy a mug, a handbag and a wall paper stating "happily unmarried" and smile at your self dependency. Even if you chose to marry a man at this age, feel like 26 and cherish your changed relationship status to the fullest. *p*

Ranabir June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Well honestly speaking from experience of marriage, I totally believe that you have come alone and you will leave alone from this world. So regardless of your age it’s better to stay single. If you worry about your last days of life, trust me just pelf wise make yourself so strong that any old age home will welcome you with open arms. Till than keep living your life to the fullest. Enjoy life as it is a Present (gift) with worrying about last days.??

Sangeeta Menon June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I have been witnessing a rise in women friends in a co-habiting situation. For whatever reasons they are without partners (widowed/divorced/never married), sharing a household with a dear friend had proved beneficial.*p**p*at some stage of life, especially as we age, it becomes lonely without companionship. However, who says companionship has to be of opposite gender?*p**p*you can have a great life and share activities with a friend! And should love strike when you least expected, no problem with that either. *p*

peculiarblend June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Such a balanced view, thanks! *p*

peculiarblend June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Yes! Absolutely. *p*

peculiarblend June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Listen to your heart, it'll just tell you what you need. All the best!*p*

Arti Ohri June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Yes Sangeeta ,*p**p*as of now this seems to be the answer !*p*

Arti Ohri June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Yes Rishav…that's what i feel too! But some who has a firey desire to live i think will require an active life both emotionally and socially.*p*

Arti Ohri June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

"pelf wise" – that sounds crude!!!!*p**p*Honestly Ranbir this was more edged towards an Emotional State of Mind than anything else- Need for companinship and support ….*p*

Arti Ohri June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

This i would agree to! Guess the empty nest is the problem more than anything else! So i guess each one gets to take a call on their individual need just as Madhuri mentioned …*p*

Madhuri. Y June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Depends on each person's emotional need. Let's look at research – it found that once married-now single persons fall into 5 categories (enhancers, competent loners, good enoughs, seekers and libertines). Of these, competent loners did not remarry. They learnt from the divorce, enhanced their competencies that had otherwise remained latent during marriage, but interestingly they chose to remain single because they were emotionally self-sustaining. (Details of these types of people is in my book, Untying the fine knots: How to deal with Divorce.)*p**p*We need to take a good hard look at ourselves, our emotional needs and our need for a partner's presence next to us. To remain single is happily possible, but whether it is for us, is what we must ask ourselves. *p**p* *p*

Deepa June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Really depends…..differs from individual to individual….*p*

AshwinaGarg June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I personally would rather be alone than marry for the second time because, as much as I love my husband, I have made a lot of sacrifices for him and would appreciate a chance to live life on my own terms.*p*

Aditya Tiwari June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

For me who is just in the 20s and very clear mind what I want. I would say you can go easily but you doing alone is a little exaggeration. I think you should find someone, someone with the same energy you have. This is what I am doing. *p**p*I admit even if the person goes without marriage, then also you need someone with you. *p*

Vaishali Chandorkar Chitale June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

It all depends upon the kind of person you are ..If you are comfortable being alone, happy in self place , do not crave for company then you will have the same energy and zest for life ; but if you are the type who needs to be with someone to share your experiences with , then I feel life can be very boring alone in later years when time hangs heavy on our hands. Then the everyday routine with a partner keeps one busy and we have someone to talk to and his/her presence alone is a comforting factor.*p*

Rishav Ray June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

A partner really helps during the later years. Although it depends on how people chose to be during that particular age but psychologically you are going to feel lonely that is for certain. A partner will help ease your mind and assist you during your tough times. Having said that many would prefer to remain single and carry on although the void may well be present.*p*

Ronak June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

When you are happy alone, when you can live with yourself, there is no intrinsic necessity to be in relationship. That does not mean that you will not relate. But to relate is one thing, and to be in relationship is quite another. Relationship is a kind of bondage, relating is sharing. You will relate with many people, you will share your joy with many people, but you will not depend on anyone in particular and you will not allow anybody else to depend on you. You will not be dependent, and you will not allow anybody to be dependent on you. Then you live out of freedom, out of joy, out of love or relationship*p*

Barkha Tiwari June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

If we look closely, almost everything in this world is subjective. What could be right for me could be wrong for you and vice versa and your question is no exception. For majority of people it is necessary and for many it is compulsory to live their life with someone, preferably husband or wife. But some are not all so some could choose to live their life alone with their own company. I admit it’s possible and lots of people do so but we cannot deny the power and necessity of companionship at any age especially at older age. We humans are designed to live our lives with companion. It could be anyone a friend, a lover, a partner or anyone but we definitely need company because at the end of the day we all need someone to tell about how our day was unless you are a Zen master.

RakshaBharadia June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

What i think is we need a companion or close friends…but someone to come home too. Need not necesaarily be a romantic relationship. One can have a close friend/s but they must share space together so that they are around for each other when one is down, or to catch a movie together and most importantly not enter an empty house (not everyday at least). So someone yes, but a romantic partner no! *p*

M Mohanty June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I think, people generally do need a partner in their later years. But I would like to qualify here that the partner doesnt necessarily have to be a spouse. It could be a good friend, siblings, someone they have really connected with. Having a partner offers companionship and thats always welcome.*p*

Ranjana Kamo June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

We can do without a partner. My opinion, though this may sound ruthless, how many married people lose their partners when they are in their 50s or 60s and have to live alone. The energy weans out and we can never be sure if the partner will be as supporting as required in the later years. Being single or married has its own pros and cons but none is unmanageable. *p*

Amrita June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

No compulsion to have a partner. If u love traveling just go for it, and go deep into books. I am sure they will be the best partners you can ever have.*p*

Mira June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I am 30, Single, and in no ways I find myself ready for a relationship. Life to me ~ right now and coming years ~ seems more productive, professionally and socially, as a single woman. *p**p*I still can't deny the fact that I do understand need of partner to share these life experiences with. I sure have some great friends and I make sure we dont loose out on each other in routine chores. But they have their own lives to build and focus on. Having a partner means to me of having someone you build your life together with and share your life experience with. *p**p*In later years, say at after 50 or so, it becomes even more essential to have some one to look back and cherish these life experiences together.*p**p* *p*

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