Am I in love with someone else?

I love my husband but over the last year I have gotten very close to an old friend as he went through divorce. While I have remained faithful I feel I may be falling in love with my friend. How do I know if I am in love with another man? I am so confused about my feelings right now!

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Anonymous
June 7, 2017

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  1. Sorting emotions is a messy job …You may feel a very strong emotion for your friend as of now as he is going through a hard time and it can be love. but you need to assess both your marraige and the friendship. There may be an emotional need that your friend is filling up for you which may not be fullfilled in your marraige. Or may it is just the care and attention you may be getting fromt his freind as you have been a strong support  for him which makes you feel more wanted and important.  May be take a vacation and take your time to just observe both relationships and tehir meaning and importance to you and hope you will figure it out..*p*

  2. Another piece that may interest you…*p**p* *p**p*http://www.bonobology.com/the-affair/the-aftermath/325-an-affair-she-regrets*p*

  3. Hey! It is natural to get attracted to another. Society teaches us that if we are in love with our partner we cannot but feel anything else or at least not seriously so. The thing is with another person we are sharing ourselves, our likes and dislikes, our vulnerabilities. What we are enjoying is sharing ourself…someting wehave already done with our partner. Just see the other person in the light he deserves. Had read somewhere….in the end I realized he was where he meant to be just a lover! *p**p*You may find this piece helpful too…*p**p* *p**p*http://www.bonobology.com/the-affair/having-an-affair/263-anatomy-of-an-affair*p**p* *p*

  4. The worst part is there is no clear line of demarcation between falling in love and knowing if you are surely in love with that person. It's just like a spectrum like any other human attribute. There is no clear cut classification system. What brings a change to our lives in such situations, is our CHOICES. It is, in the end, our choices that will make us – who we are and what will happen to us – instead of the situations governing us, or our abilities to cope with those situations. So, go ahead and make your choice. *p*

  5. Yes, you may be falling in love and it is both natural and good. Now all you have to do is give both the loves their due places and act responsibly. Some amount of understanding is also needed from all involved.

  6. Yes, you may be falling in love and it is both natural and good. Now all you have to do is give both the loves their due places and act responsibly. Some amount of understanding is also needed from all involved.

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