Bad break

Just went through a horrible breakup, which has really devastated me. We were together for 6 years. Now I feel this break up has changed me forever to a cynical, pessimist who does not believe in love, trust, and relationships. I want to move on and not be defined by one failed relationship, but I feel that is who I have become.

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Anonymous
July 13, 2017

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  1. It happens. Don’t worry. This mindset is temporary. You are still in the hangover and that is why you are thinking this way. I would just advice you to keep socialising and not be a loner. You will get out of this lretty soon. You will start trusting again. Just try not to go into a shell.

    1. It happens. Don’t worry. This mindset is temporary. You are still in the hangover and that is why you are thinking this way. I would just advice you to keep socialising and not be a loner. You will get out of this lretty soon. You will start trusting again. Just try not to go into a shell.

  2. Don't worry. This is very common phenomena where the person who suffers from breakup goes through this rough path of self-hatred and loss of self-esteem. So don't worry because like everyone, you'll also move on from this phase to a better phase. Just be close to your friends and family because thy are gonna help you the most. *p*

  3. dont worry, you will soon begin to imagine a life without this relationship and then transition into being ready for someone new. just give it some time and let emotions run its natural course, dont be so harsh on yourself :)*p*

  4. Hey! Someone worthy of you will come up. I read somewhere that when we think we cannot move past a break-up we are creating neural pathways that reinforces that. Stop that neural activity. Instead tell yourself 'I have got over him'. One more way, Whenever u miss that person do not fight the missing feeling. Observe yourself pining for him. In sometime the longing will go away. *p*

  5. Sorry to hear about your breakup. It will take time for you to be yourself. Take that time, you need it. Life will change for the better slowly and gradually. Keep in mind that it is his loss not yours, you deserve more and you will get it soon. God answers our prayers though they may come to us in unexpected packages. I know it hurts, but think if you want to give the right to someone else to control your life and your happiness. Do you? Spend more time with your friends and family and get into hobbies that you ignored when you were with him. You are the master of your own happiness and you owe it to yourself to be happy. It will seem difficult initially but when you start making an effort you will realize that you can do it. All the best and hope you have a happy and fulfilling life ahead! Make the best of what you have and make every effort to live a wholesome life as life is limited by years. *p**p* *p*

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