Complete Transparency

Since art is inspired by life and vice-versa also is true.. This question is for people who watch House of Cards.In The fiction based series, The two main protagonists, Frank Underwood and Claire Underwood are shown to have a completely open and transperant relationship, so much so that, the first lady has sex with someone else, and the man is completely in confindence about it. He knows, infact, he says, "I cant give her what she wants and so she can……Claire is shown to have open relationships with different men at different times. Now currently it is Tom a writer who connects deeply with her, and the husband is ok with it, infact, yesterday there was a cringe worthy scene, where Frank, the husband comes and sits in the same room his wife and lover are sleeping, and he is totally ok about it..Is this normal… or is it too fiction like, is this great amount of transperancy a done thing today?On one hand i am in awe of Claire who is a totally empowered woman and knows what she wants, but on the other hand is this fragile woman who just wants to be desired.. People who are watching it… any insights!!!!?!??

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Malini Misra
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:21 am
AshwinaGarg June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

It all depends on what a couple have to offer each other. Frank and Claire have a highly symbiotic relationship; romantic love and sex is a very small part of it. They are a Washington power couple and being together is very advantageous to them professionally and socially. This kind of relationship will not work for everyone. Also, there are many cracks in the relationship and there are many times that Claire has to give in to Frank's demands, because he is such a powerful, self-centred amd vindictive man. So I don't really think they are as comfortable with their relationship as they pretend to be.*p*

Saurabh Dalal June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Sorry I don't follow this series. However, I can assure you that there are couples(and families) out there who indulge in all sorts of deviations from the so called normal relationship and to the best of my knowledge are perfecty matter of fact about it.*p**p*I have a firm conviction that truth is always stranger then fiction. However, predominant societal mores and values prevent the truth from coming out in open.*p**p*Human psyche craves for new experience. What has been experienced soon loses novelty for the simple reason that we want more. This is valid for both material possessions as well as relationships. So one can either constantly reinvent their relationship with existing partner or look for a new partner to satisfy the craving for newness in life. As a consequence, there are more and more people out there who reject the social norms and create their own reality.*p*

Malini June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

When I say fragile.. I felt though she's all of those, Ruth less etc etc.. she's also just a girl, asking a boy to love her.. lol*p**p*I mean, she s a woman like any other, who's deepest need is to feel that she is wanted, she is desired and that makes her vulnerable.. *p**p*I think Tom enters somewhere in the fourth season..*p**p*Absolutely bang on… Why am I watching this, where the main characters lack ethics… It's great writing isn't it.. and somewhere we as a society also see a reflection, where it's a mix of being ruthless and successful… Keeping Ur human side or facade on… Personally they r devils, when he killed Zoe so mercilessly… And ya, we r hooked. *p*

Malini June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I don't think it's a debate on right and wrong… It's perspective…*p**p*So u think .. open relations give rise to lies and lust… frankly I agree.. it's  twisted and scary but I read some where,  "don't hate something , you can't understand".. *p**p*Currently iam trying to see all angles and perspectives.*p**p* *p*

Malini June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Are you saying monogamy was never our thing at all.. humans always look for new experience… But then don't we find solace in the familiar??;isn't that why Claire and Frank actually find solace with each other only, inspite of not being romantically? involved… Sorry u don't see the series… But iam sure Ur getting the hang of it*p*

Malini June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

To be desired is one of the biggest turn ons in a woman.. one of the..not the only…. Tom gives her that in his own words there was a dialogue which says," you like to be desired as a woman don't you… " *p*

Malini June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Their relation shows that sexual loyalty does not define a relation. It requires a deep understanding of your spouse and their needs. *p**p*Well said. *p**p*Thank you, totally agree, this should have been a done thing from long.. transperancy like this is so rare it's almost not there.. so comes secrets, affairs, lies, mistrust and discord.. if only people were open .. *p*

Malini June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I agree with you.. but they are beyond pretences, as it's an open relationship, their relationship is exclusively theirs, in which they totally get each other , use each other and are together as it's advantageous… Somewhere Claire is definitely attached to Frank, and so is Frank to her. As u rightly said, that Frank is highly vindictive man and self centered, Claire is left craving for a lot.. however she has her own ambitions and is a v smart woman too.. so it's a win win for both. However what intrigues me is their openness to other partners in a marriage and being so completely ok with it. *p*

Malini June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Sure . But then art is in a way inspired by real life and real life sometimes inspires.. though in this case, yes they r not someone to look up to. Fair enough..*p*

Madhur Prabhakar June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I know a lot of people who share open relationships with each partner being ok with the others activities. Whether it's normal or not is entirely a matter of individual perspective, but what is shown in House of Cards is definitely exaggerated. I absolutely agree with your assessment of Claire's character (fragile), however I don't think it's anything to do with wanting to be desired. She doesn't seem to be entirely satisfied with the personal choices she had to make and now, it's getting reflected in her actions.*p*

Rupali Tiwari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Honestly, I think this amount of transparency should have been a done thing since the appearance of Adam and Eve. Any kind of secret between two partners disrupts the partnership. Same goes for a marriage. It's not about soulmates. It's about two partners working together in a bond. *p**p*The way Claire is portrayed as a clear protagonist for any woman out there. How many times have a woman wondered that she loves the man she has married but she isn't satisfied with the relation? How many husbands would accept their wives if they have had sexual encounters outside of marital bond? *p**p*Their relation shows that sexual loyalty does not define a relation. It requires a deep understanding of your spouse and their needs. Even Frank Underwood have had his share of rendezvous with women but Claire didn't mind those either.*p**p*People should be envious of what they have with each other. And that is respect and utmost trust which isn't affected by their sexual plays outside their marriage.*p**p* *p*

Aman Singh June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

In this world, we can rarely term something as 'absolute' or 'ideal'. When Frank Underwood finds an open relationship to be an ideal thing for them then it's just ideal from their perspective and no one else's. I guess we make a mistake when we try to draw examples from something which is too fictional for this real world. We are real humans with real feelings and it's tough to be a Frank Underwood or Clair in this society or for each other. *p**p* *p*

Dimple Ranpara June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I believe Frank and Claire are the wrong couple to look up to. Lack of morals doesn't define a good relationship despite the transparency. There is too much of immorality and selfishness. As a couple, they ended up destroying each other. An open relationship cannot be a substitute for a lack of a genuine one. Frank is okay with it because he himself suffers from the guilt of his sexuality and the fact that he has himself crossed the line multiple times. It's like a wicked deal you sign with somebody who knows your dark side and secrets. *p**p*Also, the lack of trust and respect leads to lust and lies. Claire will scratch his back when he will need her the most – and why wouldn't she, she learnt it from him. *p*

Shruthi Nawab June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I have the same reaction to House of Cards – I admire their relationship sometimes and cringe at other times. I don't think of Claire as fragile at all. They are both ruthless, really.  Sometimes, I question myself – as to why I am watching a show where the main characters have such a lack of ethics. But its a great script and I am a fan!*p**p*About their relationship. Definitely very open – one would be envious. At the beginning, it seemed like there was love and respect. But in the latter part of the third season, it evolved into a relationship where they seemingly tolerated eachother because they needed eachother for their ambitions. At the beginning of the fourth season (which I am currently watching), it's a bitter battle of wits between them. So perhaps, like all relationships, the bonds are only just as good as the people who form them. A couple's true nature determines their bond. So, an ambitious and ruthless person (Claire or Francis) will eventually be so in their married relationship as well…why would that be different?*p*

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