Conditional love

Romantic love in my opinion is usually not unconditional. We expect a few things in return of the love that we give. Even after years of being together, there can be many examples of conditional love in marriage. Any opinions?

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Priya Jindal
June 7, 2017

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  1. To some extent yes. Unconditional love is an utopian concept. Everyone of us perform a certain action expecting some reaction. It is indeed conditional. But sometimes we do act selflessly. But still there lingers the prospect of recognition. So I think you are right when you say romantic love is conditional.*p*

  2. Perhaps you are right. Though I hope there are some people who are able to love unconditionally without that bond. *p*

  3. I think one needs to be a philosopher to truly be in love then. Difficult for us regular folks!*p*

  4. We cannot generalise love, it varies from Individual to Individual, their awareness and their wisdom.. Generally, people are having expectations from each relations and each acts. *p**p*Many times it happens, both persons love, live those moments without any expectations (or susequently may fall apart without any grievances). If both are wise, aware and trust each other then there is no space of expectations.. When there is trust, there is no expectations..*p*

  5. When you disappear, then love is you; when you are not, then only love is….what a beuaitufl thought!*p**p*But this one….For a spiritual man love has to be non-possessive, it has no place for jealousy. It simply gives. It is not a bargain; you don't trade in it.*p**p*To be non-jealous is a big thing…very difficult to achieve. Isn't it? *p*

  6. There is nothing like uncondtional love except for mother-child relationship! Nothing. Everything else is condtional! *p*

  7. If it is not unconditional it is not Love. It is lust or a social bargain. As ugly as cheating someone in business.*p**p*Every beggar is an egoist; every beggar thinks he is an emperor. But inside he is still a beggar. He speaks of giving only so he can get. You give a little love to someone else, but you only do so because you want love in return. It is a bargain. The other is only trying to barter in love; he is only trying to exploit you too.*p**p*For a spiritual man love has to be non-possessive, it has no place for jealousy. It simply gives. It is not a bargain; you don't trade in it.*p**p*It is not a commodity; it is an overflowing of your being. You share it. In fact, in that state of being where love exists and not the lover, it is not that you are in love with someone and not in love with someone else, you are simply in love.*p**p*It is not a question of objects.*p**p*It is just like breathing. You simply breathe.*p**p*Whosoever is with you is not the case, and just like that, with whom you are in love becomes irrelevant, you are simply in love — whosoever is with you! Or, there may be nobody.*p**p*You may be sitting in an empty room, but the love goes on flowing. Now love is not an activity, it is your being. You cannot put it on and off — it is you. This is the paradox.*p**p*When you disappear, then love is you; when you are not, then only love is.*p**p*Finally, you completely forget about love, because who is there to remember it? Then love is just like a flower blooms, the sun rises, the stars fill the night sky — just it happens. Even if you touch a rock, you touch it lovingly. That has become your being.*p**p*That is the meaning of Jesus' saying, "Love your enemies." It is not a question of loving the enemies, it is becoming love. Then you cannot do anything else.*p**p*Such love cannot be conditions. How can we have conditions on our being! Just be LOVE. What else but LOVE!*p*

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