Do men take rejection more aggressively than women? Manpreet July 13, 2017 Manpreet July 13, 2017 Why does men behave so violently when rejected? 19 repliesManpreetJuly 13, 2017 19 comments Manpreet July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Thank you for telling us the right way to cope up :)*p* Vishal Kashyap July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am A Real man who has a big heart and respects women will always respect rejection calmly and go in a shell for sometime.Happened with me a couple of times :)*p* Arjun Sethia July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am @manpreet – So true. They r not even humans. Human life is the best life on this planet. It comes with equal responsibility too. Human must live life sensibly and responsibly. Protect planet, protect & nurture nature, help animals, birds, poor people and so on….. *p* Manpreet July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Yeah, they don't fall in #MENZONE not even in #HUMANZONE. *p* Arjun Sethia July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am A real man never hurts a woman 🙂 Real man would preferably harm himself than to the woman, irrespective of rejection/xyz reasons. A male who hurts female doesn't fall in #MENZONE*p* Manpreet July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Exactly, although both the genders feel hurt and feel a hint of aggression when rejected but men are biologically more aggressive. Thank you for the insight :)*p* Manpreet July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Yeah, upbringing and patriarchy plays a lot in making men believe that physical violence is equal to manhood. Also, in my opinion, why men behave violently is because they haven't been through difficult phrases while growing up as compared to women who go through painful biological experiences. These biological experience teach womenpatience and tolerance.*p* Manpreet July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Thank you for this male point of view. There are very less men who agree to this. Men express anger in physical terms while women tend to be silent. Although, we cannot change the aggressivity in males since it is a biological fact but I, definitely, think that the male ego can be sobered down in the early age.*p* Manpreet July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Yes, I agree that women also behave violently to rejection. I too have read stories where women have reacted brutally to rejecction but I think those incidents happen quite rarely. The rate of women reacting aggressively is way lower than of mens'. I recently shared a story where the boy was a narcissist and couldn't tolerate rejection. He physcically hurt the girl, stalked herl, badmouthed about her to her friends & colleagues, and even break into her appartment. *p**p*Undoubtedly, upbringing matters. Parents & school institutions should teach children how to cope with rejection & failure in life.*p* Manpreet July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Definitely, toady is the time of gender equality but somehow, I would like to highlight, that men & women are differently wired and it really depends on the gender how one reacts to such things. I am not denying the fact that women do not get hurt but I cannot really deny that women are more tend to behave passive-aggressively.*p**p* *p* Manpreet July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Yeah, I completely agree with you on this point. Women are brought up and also, biologically, we tend to have more of a passive-aggressive approach to such things in life. We kind of blame ourselves for wrong things and try to move on while guys, are a lot impatient & aggressive.*p**p* *p* Manpreet July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am I too think that patrirachy has a lot to play in such a scenario. Men need to understand that they cannot force somebody to like them. Especially, at a time like this, where impatience and non-compromising nature is on the rise. Thank for your insight and the advice.*p**p* *p**p* *p* RamendraKumar July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Yes, they do. And our patriarchal society is to be blamed for this. Men are brought up thinking they are God's gift to womankind. The very notion that they can be spurned is a ridiculous one. As a result when it happens they can't take it and act like rebellious overgrown babies! *p**p*Grow up guys and realise that rejection can happen to anyone, anytime. The best way to cope is to shrug if off and move on. *p* Ayushi July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am That's probably because women behave aggressively to very few things. They break down instead and on the other hand men show their emotions through ignorance or aggression. So that is why they tend to be more aggressive compared to women. *p* Sabiha Khan July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am I don't think it is a gender thing. Depends more on the individual, their experiences and their expectations. Sometimes we take the other person's friendliness as a hint of some feelings. Rejection then can be difficult. *p* Malini July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am I believe, today world where everyone s taking equality really seriously, for the good.. it can't depend on gender anymore. Recently read a girl threw acid on her lover's face as he was marrying someone else.. then we keep reading about women kidnapping the guy from his wedding … So I think these are things of the past.. yes men were known to act violently when rejected, but now it all depends on upbringing actually. *p**p*If upbringing, is virtuously done, children whether men or women, learn to accept reality and move on.. if no values are passed on and both parents r busy only in earning money, then literally no values r passed on… And most ills today are a result of no values being taught… *p**p*Recently a video went viral of a boy hitting a girl very badly, as she objected to being stalked.. now I don't know where such idiots r born and what kind of parents they have… But I feel parents and schools have a big role to play in taming such elements..*p**p* *p* Anmol Ratan Sachdeva July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am It is the tendency of males to take rejection in negative light and consider it as a hammer on their ego. And as we all know male ego is one of the strongest negative emotions in the world. When a male considers something as a factor that hurts his ego, the consequent feeling is anger and that too in a violent sense. This is the reason the reason rejection does not work well with males and they tend to become agressive on rejection by someone, particularly from the opposite sex. *p* DEVRAJ KALSI July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Kick chairs, overturn tables, thrash window panes, clench fists… So many macho outbursts to show she is losing a really strong/tough guy. Come on, Manpreet, men associate anger with manhood and feed stereotypes like 'angry young man'. They think by reacting aggressively to rejection, it is their last bid to showcase valour. Also, there is a gender bias that makes them feel men do not deserve to be rejected by women and there is no valid reason for a girl to reject a guy. Feudalistic upbringing comes in the way, friends making fun, lack of readiness to wait for the next girl and to think this one is perhaps the best bet…Being let down in so many other roles and by so many other people around them, rejection in love hits hard and guys are more likely to react strongly to rejection. *p* confusedanddazed123 July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Interesting question, in my opinion there are no gender diferences in accepting rejection but men are biologically known to be more aggressive. great question! feel like doing more research in the area :)*p* Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Leave a Comment Cancel ReplyYou must be logged in to post a comment. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. previous post Me time next post Do you think that a girlfriend can ever love/accept my child from my wife?