Feelings for an ex

What happens if you meet your ex and realise you still have feelings for each other? Should you get back together thinking that you are meant to be if even after all this time you managed to be drawn together? Or should you walk away fearful of repeating the same mistakes that led to the break up, as you two are inherently different people? Any thoughts?

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Mallika Oberoi
August 15, 2017

6 Comments

  1. This is a very pertinent discussion. I strongly believe, if you fall in love with a person once, you will fall in love with the same person again!

    I agree with all the other comments already in place (even if the opinion presented are in stark contrast).
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    However, my heart yearns for some optimism, and since this is a proverbial “Once bitten’ situation, I would perhaps suggest the following:

    1. Careful and honest evaluation of a few things A) What is the attraction exactly about B) What is the difference from the previous time (How true or false is what appears to be this?)
    2. Preserve, protect and mark what is beautiful, what should not be lost as friends or even just acquaintances. [Talk it out, make it clear!]
    3. Explore what can be attained beyond what you just identified, and if it doesn’t rock your boat much – give it a shot

    People make mistakes, people merit being forgiven. At times people are pain in the rear and need to be forgotten as well!

    Also, be a little selfish. It’s a great opportunity to be just yourself. Be honest in what you expect and what you offer t0o the relationship. Even if it goes wrong – it would count as a new mistake 🙂

  2. There is a reason why the person is out of your life. Isn’t it better to let the ex just be that – the ex instead of going down the same road, again? You may get hurt, why rock the boat.

  3. One never really gets over an ex or stops needing them. In a lean phase they give you that confidence…

  4. It all depends on the situation. People at times change with time, we cannot say for sure that same things will get repeated again. Sometimes loss makes us realise our mistakes and sometimes it just makes us indifferent. Nothing matters anymore. So if in current situation you still have feelings for each other and other factors are also favourable no harm in giving a second try.

  5. That is true. But sometimes the very equation and chemistry you shared could be a reason why you are still attracted and also why things went south.

  6. I think that’s subjective. It depends entirely on the equation you’ve shared, the understanding you’ve had, and moreover, the reason why you broke up in the first place. You will always have feelings for your ex- you have been with the person, so it is but natural that you won’t be indifferent towards each other; but what to do after entirely depends on you and your best judgement of the situation 🙂

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