Financial abuse

I have a friend who is a homemaker. While her husband seems like a nice person otherwise, I've noticed he keeps her on a very tight budget. It's not because he doesn't have money. He just gives her very little to run the house and almost nothing for herself. Is this financial abuse? How do I tell my friend what he's doing is wrong?

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Smriti
June 7, 2017

6 Comments

  1. I feel she should take the decision herself. Maybe you can sound her out and see how she feels about it. Maybe they have a mutual understanding, it's best to understand her side of things before giving her your view.*p*

  2. For me, it implies snatching the independence of a woman, but I would also like to share that this situation can be a mix of certain phases in life. It can be that they both share an understanding or it can be that she isn't able to talk it out. Moreover, if she isn't getting sufficient amount for her to spend, then she should take a step. Stand up a raise voice. Sometimes, we have to fight with the odds. *p*

  3. Ask her first if she feels that she has a problem regarding the matter. If she has then I do not think you should do anything more than just advising her to talk to her husband about it. If she feels she is being financially abused then she should confront her husband. I think what she should do is to keep a record of all the things that are necessary for the house and ask her husband that she doesn't get enough to sustain the house. Her demands should also be met and it could only happen if she steps up and sort it out with her husband by speaking up.*p*

  4. I think it's crucial you friend voiced her feelings first rather than assumptions being made on her behalf. If, after the chat, you figure out that your friend too feels the same then you must encourage her to be up front about it with her husband. *p**p*She should understand the difference between financial abuse and running the show on a tight budget as well. Am sure as a homemaker she has a fair idea of monthly inflow and outflow. That should be a good talking point to begin with. *p**p*We all know well nothing comes cheap these days. But unfortunately there still are some people who are caught in a time warp, probably her husband is one such. *p**p*Theres nothing that a good cuppa tea and an open discussion can't take care of.*p**p* *p**p* *p*

  5. If she is okay with whatever her husband is doing then you shouldn't intervene. You might not know the whole story and what they are up to. You can just discuss it in a friendly way and if you think the water is way above the head then yes you can talk to her about it. *p*

  6. Maybe it is about control. When I argued with a friend of mine todo something for his wife which may be bordering on 'pampering' he said, 'We have to keep them in control'. *p*

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