Get husband involved with my family

How do I get my husband involved with my family, as I am with his? After all, my side are his in-laws and extended family, just as his side is for me. I have discussed it with him. He says he will but when time comes, makes some excuse or another.

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Mallika Oberoi
August 26, 2017

5 Comments

  1. 1. Gently negotiate. Arrive at those things that you won’t do unless he does what he promises.

    2. Do not have long discussions. Changes to occur, happen businesslike.

  2. Do you think there is any particular reason for his particular behavior? Ask him why he is not comfortable in connecting with your family. Don’t force your partner. All you can do is to make sure he gets opportunity to connect with your family.

  3. Your husband’s interaction with your family is obviously very important to you. Explain thiis to him. Explain to him that you are who you are because of your parents’ efforts and sacrifices. His not taking time out for them is distressing you.
    Start out with small steps. Maybe a phone once a week or a dinner together once in a while.
    Explain also to your parents if they are unintentionally doing something that upsets your husband.
    Dont let pleasing your in-laws be the sole purpose of your life. They should know that you have your own iinterests and relationships too.
    Make sure to take out time on your own for visiting your family. This will signal to your husband how valuable your family is for you.

  4. I hope so. But I hope not much precious time has been lost till then. Relationships take time to build after all

  5. I guess he will when the time comes. Don’t stress. Most Indian men have been fed the tripe it makes them lesser men if they look/interact with their wives side. But they realise it much later. Enjoy your me time with ur family and tell them your fears. They will understand too

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