Sujata Rajpal is corporate communications and PR professional turned full-time author. Her debut novel The Other End of the Corridor is her first work of fiction. She also writes columns and articles for online and print publications. She stumbled upon her passion for writing when her cushy job stopped challenging her. When not writing, she indulges in long walks, yoga, Toastmasters and playing chess with her two sons.
Well just as social media comes with loads of pros, the cons are too glaring to ignore. Being active on social media is a great thing but definitely not when it eats into the personal time that you may devote to your relationship. I've seen couples at restaurants individually hooked on to their phones – what's the point of stepping out for a meal then. I know of some houses that have strictly started a no browsing at home rule but that I find too juvenile. I mean respect each other and the relationship rather than resort to some Hitleric dictat. *p**p*Every relationship has its own oxygen and every couple has the right to choose what works for them and what doesn't. If you think social media is a bane then there's no garm in being unsocial for a change.*p*
AnkeetaJune 8, 2017 - 8:56 am
I am a married woman & someone who isnt really fond of social media so much. On the other hand, my husband loves taking selfies with me & uploading them on Facebook, Instagram, etc.*p**p*I didn't mind until some of his friends started commenting "you lucky dog" "bhabhi is so beautiful " & what not!*p**p*I don't know some of them personally but they sent me friend requests to which I declined because I don't add people whom I don't know personally. *p**p*They even started sending me messages if I have a sister whom they could get married to & what not! Finally, I have deactivated my Facebook profile for a while. *p**p*I have also told my husband about his friends behaviour. *p**p*Social media is for us to connect with our loved & closed ones, not show off our personal lives.*p*
SaumyaTewariJune 8, 2017 - 8:56 am
Even though I am single, this is one phenomenon amazes me!*p**p*I am still one of those people who want to keep my real relationships out of social media- you know, out of the virtual world.*p**p*And funnily, even dating in today's world is through social media- its like my only sense involved in dating is typing to chat windows/ emails/ texts! Probably this is the reason why I am single- I need a real person while potential dates only want to type to me. It never progresses beyond that! :P*p**p*Here is the link to the quiz we at team Bonobology designed on the impact of social media in our relationships-*p**p*Quiz: Has your relationship been taken over by Social Media?*p**p* *p*
Barnali RoyJune 8, 2017 - 8:56 am
I don't think any relationship today is immune to the impact of social media addiction. In close and intimate relationships all the more so. Often I have been too caught up with posting and commenting on WhatsApp or Facebook to pay real attention to what my spouse is saying in the same room. Social media shares and likes have taken precedence over real conversations. Somehow our virtual lives have started to dominate our actual ones.*p*
Aman SinghJune 8, 2017 - 8:56 am
It does affect your relationship. No matter how new or old your relationship is, if you're not giving it enough time, it'll be affected. I know girls who broke up with their boyfriends just because he was too much addicted to online gaming! But, yeah, it's true it does have an impact. And, we are one who can control it.*p*
SidJune 8, 2017 - 8:56 am
Any addiction is bound to have ricochet effects on a relationship – especially when it involves other people, albeit virtual ones. Personally, I think it did affect our relationship a bit – more so, because my wife hasn't really taken to social media as I have. And also the fact that a lof of my work involves being on social media, and hence sometimes 'lack of attention' has driven her mad occasionally.*p**p*However, what I don't get are people in relationships over-indulging in social media PDA. Get a room for everyone else's sake :)*p*
Tina AcharyaJune 8, 2017 - 8:56 am
In my case, it acted positively. It dissolved my feelings of isolation and got me connected to many friends, that include strangers, old pals, and new friends. Moreove, it also helped me to enjoy My share of "ME" space that made me happy. And a "Happy Me" what my partner always wanted…*p*
VivekJune 8, 2017 - 8:56 am
Yes. Being on social media platforms, one after another, is not just a habit of mine, but also a work requirement. This has certainly impacted my relationship and my partner flagged it multiple times. I completely understand how annoying it could be when you are having a heart-to-heart and you find your partner, in my case me, itching for a gap to get hold of my phone and check social media feeds. *p**p*Smartphones and internet, anyway, have ruined our lives.*p*
RakshaBharadiaJune 8, 2017 - 8:56 am
I did a lot of research on this and one thing that pops put a lot is how people go and find their old crushes via social media and visit not the person that is there then, but the idea of the person when they were young and relatively carefree, which in turns causes a lot of complication. *p**p*We have a quiz also on our website which gives you an output on how social media impacts your relationship. *p**p*Cheers! *p*
I am KrishnaJune 8, 2017 - 8:56 am
A friend shared this with me that his wife would be on FB when he got back from office and wouldn't step off it and it irritated him like hell. He told her a few times but she said that why is he always so late from work. She waits for him too. The thing is I understand her pov too…*p*
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Well just as social media comes with loads of pros, the cons are too glaring to ignore. Being active on social media is a great thing but definitely not when it eats into the personal time that you may devote to your relationship. I've seen couples at restaurants individually hooked on to their phones – what's the point of stepping out for a meal then. I know of some houses that have strictly started a no browsing at home rule but that I find too juvenile. I mean respect each other and the relationship rather than resort to some Hitleric dictat. *p**p*Every relationship has its own oxygen and every couple has the right to choose what works for them and what doesn't. If you think social media is a bane then there's no garm in being unsocial for a change.*p*
I am a married woman & someone who isnt really fond of social media so much. On the other hand, my husband loves taking selfies with me & uploading them on Facebook, Instagram, etc.*p**p*I didn't mind until some of his friends started commenting "you lucky dog" "bhabhi is so beautiful " & what not!*p**p*I don't know some of them personally but they sent me friend requests to which I declined because I don't add people whom I don't know personally. *p**p*They even started sending me messages if I have a sister whom they could get married to & what not! Finally, I have deactivated my Facebook profile for a while. *p**p*I have also told my husband about his friends behaviour. *p**p*Social media is for us to connect with our loved & closed ones, not show off our personal lives.*p*
Even though I am single, this is one phenomenon amazes me!*p**p*I am still one of those people who want to keep my real relationships out of social media- you know, out of the virtual world.*p**p*And funnily, even dating in today's world is through social media- its like my only sense involved in dating is typing to chat windows/ emails/ texts! Probably this is the reason why I am single- I need a real person while potential dates only want to type to me. It never progresses beyond that! :P*p**p*Here is the link to the quiz we at team Bonobology designed on the impact of social media in our relationships-*p**p*Quiz: Has your relationship been taken over by Social Media?*p**p* *p*
I don't think any relationship today is immune to the impact of social media addiction. In close and intimate relationships all the more so. Often I have been too caught up with posting and commenting on WhatsApp or Facebook to pay real attention to what my spouse is saying in the same room. Social media shares and likes have taken precedence over real conversations. Somehow our virtual lives have started to dominate our actual ones.*p*
It does affect your relationship. No matter how new or old your relationship is, if you're not giving it enough time, it'll be affected. I know girls who broke up with their boyfriends just because he was too much addicted to online gaming! But, yeah, it's true it does have an impact. And, we are one who can control it.*p*
Any addiction is bound to have ricochet effects on a relationship – especially when it involves other people, albeit virtual ones. Personally, I think it did affect our relationship a bit – more so, because my wife hasn't really taken to social media as I have. And also the fact that a lof of my work involves being on social media, and hence sometimes 'lack of attention' has driven her mad occasionally.*p**p*However, what I don't get are people in relationships over-indulging in social media PDA. Get a room for everyone else's sake :)*p*
In my case, it acted positively. It dissolved my feelings of isolation and got me connected to many friends, that include strangers, old pals, and new friends. Moreove, it also helped me to enjoy My share of "ME" space that made me happy. And a "Happy Me" what my partner always wanted…*p*
Yes. Being on social media platforms, one after another, is not just a habit of mine, but also a work requirement. This has certainly impacted my relationship and my partner flagged it multiple times. I completely understand how annoying it could be when you are having a heart-to-heart and you find your partner, in my case me, itching for a gap to get hold of my phone and check social media feeds. *p**p*Smartphones and internet, anyway, have ruined our lives.*p*
I did a lot of research on this and one thing that pops put a lot is how people go and find their old crushes via social media and visit not the person that is there then, but the idea of the person when they were young and relatively carefree, which in turns causes a lot of complication. *p**p*We have a quiz also on our website which gives you an output on how social media impacts your relationship. *p**p*Cheers! *p*
A friend shared this with me that his wife would be on FB when he got back from office and wouldn't step off it and it irritated him like hell. He told her a few times but she said that why is he always so late from work. She waits for him too. The thing is I understand her pov too…*p*