How do I convince my husband to exercise with me?

I exercise often as I put on weight easily. My husband, however, is very thin and does not put on weight inspite of what he eats. I think that irrespective of your body type, it is necessary for every person to get some exercise everyday as it is good for your health. And as a couple, working together will be fun. My husband disagrees with this. How do I get him to understand my point of view?

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Janani Ravindran
June 7, 2017


  1. You can be fit even without doing exercise. Proper diet, good sleep and healthy habits are important. If he doesn’t have any medical condition and is living a healthy life then it’s okay to not do exercise. Try convincing him but if he doesn’t get convinced then don’t force. Our health is in our own hand and so is our consciousness for health. πŸ™‚

  2. For starters, there is an article right here on Bonobology that deals with this dilemma: *p*As for me, I’m on the other side of that equation you’re talking about…I’m the spouse that is tough to inspire to exercise. My husband initially started with directly getting me a gym membership that he already had, along with super-nice gym shoes and all but it didn’t quite help. Because it was still something he was interested in doing and I was participating in. It was only when he started to pursue his fitness goals without pushing me that I actually got inspired…with his sincerity. In that sense I really relate to the above article. *p*A big mistake we all make I think is to assume the same activity works for everyone. That exercise or fitness is one goal and everyone interested in it should be able to do whatever leads to it. It was when I broke that assumption that I started to work out. So my husband and I now have the same goal but pursue it very differently. He loves running and gymming while I hate it. I’d rather eat better (super effective) and exercise at home through fun routines like Zumba or Kickboxing. So my husband’s sincere pursuit keeps me inspired but we don’t exercise together. And that’s ok because it’s the end result that matters. *p*Hope this helps πŸ™‚

  3. Working out together is a great excuse to spend some time together with a busy schedule. You can find ‘exercises’ that your husband find exciting. A mundane gym is not his cup of tea. Try looking for innovative options, jogging, trekking, rock climbing, playing a sport, learning a dance etc. Something that not of you enjoy doing together.

  4. Include a session of sex after each day’s work out and show him the schedule. He will join you. πŸ™‚

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