How do you deal with jealousy issues in marriage??

In today’s times, where men and women interact freely with each other ,how do you deal with and address jealousy issues in your relationship?

8 replies
Darshana Doshi
June 7, 2017

8 Comments

  1. Jealousy, I feel, is good in a relationship. Although we may be very cool and collected externally when we see our wife/husband having a good time with his/her friends we may feel jealous from the inside. That's human behaviour for you. Jealousy is what makes us realise that we want our loved ones to stick to us all the time and I think it is the bittersweet side of a relationship . What we should keep in mind is that our jealousy does not become an obsession. That can be destructive!*p*

  2. jealousy,envy,suspicion etc feelings do arise as human nature.How ever it depends on the partner..to assure the other that there is nothing to worry & in case it creeps to a point that it is affecting the relationships, then better stay away from such elements.I am talking of normal relationships/ partners.(Constantly suspicious..over jealous partners excluded).

  3. Yes Tapan, I agree with you to but to an extent as the million dollar question is ‘how much’ jealosy is healthy? and how often?? if the partner is overtly sensitive and is not able to cope with it then the relationship can experience a lot of turmoil. so personally i feel this game should be played only sometimes and in a very light hearted manner *p*.

  4. That is a great arrangement a couple can have to save themselves from jealousy , Shubha. However this is possible only both have settled in their relationship where the foundation of trust is built . That is why i guess first few years a couple should work towards it consciously .

  5. It depends on the act of attachment & detachment at the same time. Why does one get jealous in the first place? Because he/she thinks that their respective place is being taken up someone else…which is nothing but wrong. We address jealousy issue by attaching with each other on the occasions we are together, while detach ourselves when we are doing our individual things. For instance, my friend/wife’s lunch or dinner plan with her (male) colleague is not my space to enter while my banter with a British brunette on the social media platforms is not her thing to be bothered about. Nonetheless, we both enjoy our weekend outings and late night intellectual debates where no male colleague or British lass enters our emotional space!!!

  6. I would say some bit of jealousy is good in a romantic relationship. It keeps the couple on their toes to look and behave well and take care of each other’s implicit and explicit needs. It gets bitter when jealousy is coupled with extreme possessiveness and suspicion. This usually happens with the insecure partner in a couple but soon can get transferred to the other person. In case it gets clinical, a couple therapy may not be a bad idea. *p*For normal jealousy issues, it is easier to speak directly if a certain behaviour seems unacceptable to a partner. If a partner is spending more quality team with another person than their spouse, then the erring partner must be asked some direct questions. The partner will either become careful and conscious or will give signs to move on. *p*Both are far more acceptable than spending a life together of disputed and suspicious togetherness.

  7. I didn’t have the opportunity. I wish I had, possibly it wold have increased the attraction. Certain amount of jealousy keeps one on guard and on top of one’s game. Courting becomes a life long affair with the spouse just to keep the relationship interesting. Of course, when jealousy becomes overwhelming, it makes a relationship dysfunctional

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