How long to wait after a break up?

I broke up with my long term boyfriend three months ago. He seems to have moved on. But I don't know if I am ready for my first relationship after the breakup. I feel there is too much emotional baggage. Will that ever go? Is there a buffer time I should wait for?

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Priya Jindal
June 7, 2017

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  1. There are two ways to go about it-*p**p*1) As soon as you will bump into someone new you start liking, you will be over him*p**p*2) As soon as you know you are not starting the next relationship or dating the next person as a rebound, you will be moving on*p**p*Whichever comes first..*p**p* *p*

  2. Feelings may be there but with time you will start to get over it and what will remain is memories. Occupy yourself with things you love and do not think that your life has stopped after the break up. You will surely meet another special person in due course of time. It is just that you are fresh from a break up that you are feeling like this. Trust me. Time is the best healer. You will start living again. You will start loving again. *p*

  3. Yes…that was his jouney. This is yours…any relationship you get into may be on the rebound and hurt you even more! *p*

  4. The one thing I've learnt from all my experiences is that the more you have invested into your relationship, the longer it's going to take you to move on. The repressed feelings that you call baggage today, are what you'll eventually rename as experience or memories or components of the relationship that made you stronger.*p**p*Yes, the baggage will remain, but in a different variant.*p**p*Yes, you will move on. There's no fixed buffer time for this. It's all about how you work yourself out during this phase. Don't just go hunting or jump head first into the dating scene all of a sudden.*p**p*Allow yourself time to heal. Enjoy being single for now. Read, binge watch TV shows, write a blog or a novel, work, do whatever it is you feel like doing. Eventually, you're going to realize that all that you've been through in this relationship of yours, all the experiences you've had, and all the memories you've shared, have only made you better, stronger, and an emotionally more stable person. That's when you could think about starting to date again!*p**p*Remember this, time is a magician. It heals everything. Broken relationships are some of the easiest things time has healed!*p*

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