How much compromise in a relationship accounts for a sacrifice?

How much should you give away in a relationship till you stop looking like a sacrificial lamb? There has to be a limit, right? How far is too far? Is against all odds a myth?

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Anonymous
July 13, 2017

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  1. Simply said, there is no universal rule or benchmark for this. I would say, the compromise should be up to the point where one doesn’t have to compromise with ones self-respect. Love makes one do many things, one wouldn’t do under normal circumstance. But self-respect is important and the partner should stop when s/he is being taken for granted. Compromises are part of anybodys life, but not at the cost of what ones self-respect and individual principles.

  2. It's a subjective thing and it differs from person to person. You're the one you get to decide that how much you want to sacrifice so that it doesn't affect your self-esteem and life. And your partner needs to understand how much he/she expects from you and try to return something of the similar amount in return. That's how a sacrifice never goes to a waste. Sacrificing is not a bad thing till the time it helps the relationship and not the selfish side of your partner. *p*

  3. It is subjective choice, and there is no set rule to define it. But I guess one should not compromise with their self-esteem and self-worth. There are occasions when one has to pay more than others involved in any relationship but it should not be a common practice. One should not embrace doormat personality trait, nor act like a bullheaded. If someone is not happy and contended after making compromises then it is time to change the course of action.*p*

  4. When you are in a relationship you cant expect to get your way 100%. There will be some give and take particularly if everything is going well.*p**p*But there are certainly somethings that you never compromise on*p**p*Excessive alchohol or drug use*p**p*The way that your spouse treats you and your family and friends*p**p*Your ambitions and dreams*p**p*Your basic nature who you are as a person*p*

  5. Against all odds is definitely a myth, just like true love is. A relationship is bound to have odds, and it is upto the couple (and their level of compatibility, of course,) to work through the difficulties by giving to the relationship equally and taking equal responsibility for the relationship to work. Just the way a couple won't be head over heels in love every single day, a couple shouldn't be an unfair imbalance of investment of time and energy either. There's no question of looking like a sacrificial lamb, and if a person does feel so, they must simply leave for the good of both partners involved, since if a person keeps on giving and gets completely drained in the end (Which has to happen ultimately), the person can no longer have personal growth as a priority in life anymore, (And what can be sadder than that?) and the one who keeps on receiving feels entitled to the same in a dangerous, clingy way after some time has elapsed, and there will be no way out except for a messy end, if at all the partners decide to part ways. Add kids to the equation, and the situation becomes even more complex. Indian society has conditioned women into thinking that they must stay on in an unsatisfying marriage for the sake of the children (And according to those traditional aunties, who will marry a divorcee's kids, anyway?)*p**p*However, despite all social bindings, i feel there HAS to be a limit to giving and giving and giving in a relationship. If you have an un-generous, apathetic partner…*p**p*Please run for dear life.*p*

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