How to deal with “what used to be”?

What to do when your partner becomes stagnant with the relationship? When he/she no longer want to make those passionate efforts to be with you? When suddenly evverything becomes 'okay'? How to deal with the transitiononce the honeymooon phase of your relationship is over for your partner but instead you find yourself complaining and fighting over 'what used to be'?

8 replies
Kruti Patel
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Preeti June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

What used to be ….is most often lost in pressures of life. Relationship energies change and this change is not always bad. Don't resist the change. Adapt to it.*p**p*If its physical intimacy you refer to, it always reaches a plateau. Thats when you need to get creative once in a while to keep the zing alive in bedroom. *p**p*Otherwise its just loads and loads of understanding. Change is the only constant factor*p*

peculiarblend June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Law of average catches up. Give yourself time. Don't freak out. Some times, we just need to expereince the normalcy to get back.*p**p* *p**p*Trying too hard might just turn the partner off. Hang out with friends (if you have any, LOL) not virtual ones. All the best.   *p*

Sangeeta Menon June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I think the very first thing you need to stop thinking is of "what used to be". It is important to keep in mind that relationships are constantly evolving, passions are always waning and waxing. If the level of comittment has not wavered between your partner and you, there is hope.*p**p*While communication is very important, it is important what you are communicating. Ask yourself and your partner, what is the next activity that you both can do and enjoy rather than saying,"we have a problem, lets look for a solution", which just adds pressure on both of you to tackle a very natural progression in a relationship as a problem.    *p*

Ankeeta June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Talk. Converse.  Become proactive.  Most importantly communicate & tell how you feel! *p**p*To get back that spark, reignite the passion. Most importantly,  don't give up! *p*

Puneet Aggarwal June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Often such phases come and go. We all like to retrieve in our safe zones after a long travel. The question is how to deal the transition period? *p**p*ENGAGE yourself. For a brief period of time engage yourself in other activities. It will break down the monotony of a relationship and will give you some space to cherish the moments of togetherness. Trsust me, if you will try to pursue the passionate love, the monotony will kill the joy. Let it comeback itself. Till then, enjoy the perks of varied platters of life. Mind well, dont indulge much, that when love returns back to you, you are no where available. *p*

Raul Sodat Najwa June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I guess *p**p*one should include fun activities which can bring partners together. Even going wild is fun sometimes *p*

ShailGulhati June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

in the simplest briefest of words:*p*if you have loved truly , make a conscious effort again to re kindle the fire.*p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I think this is the period that tests the strength of the relationship… beyond the passion! Don't regret "what used to be". Its not gone anywhere. Relationships also move up stages. This stage is to build it further. To build a new kind of intimacy, companionship, partnership in other aspects of life.*p*

Leave a Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.