How to eject yourself out from the friendzoned status and fall back in race to impress your crush?

Ppl, i need your suggestion of how to eject yourself out from the frienddzoned status and come back in the race to impress the crush. . . i know it is difficult, but i am very sure that there must be many out there, who had been there, and done it!!!

12 replies
Raul Sodat Najwa
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Ajay June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Start by noticing her more, pay special attention to her in the group, give compliments, flirt a little. Be careful not to go over the top with your advances. She's bound to notice the change. Let your common friends know that you want more than friendship. She will ask them about your behaviour change. And if she likes the answer and sticks around, ask her out and take things from there. All the best!*p*

Urmi June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Pay attention. LOTS of attention. That's one thing we all want and enjoy. But don't get creepy or intrusive. State your intent, but play it cool, and things will hopefully take a turn for the better. :)*p*

Suraj June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

You must first realise what exactly that person is looking for even if he/she does not know it. It could be a particular body-type, a particular way of walking or talking, a lifestyle, something that reminds of someone dear, a smell, or something more unfathomable like the ability to understand the nuances of emotions even when you cannot express them satisfactorily or pure kindness and warmth. In each case, try to be that person if you can, eventually, s/he would notice you or come back to you. And if you cannot be that person, it's better to move on to become that person for somebody else.*p*

AbhasG June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Hey bro , been there done that .i know exactly how you feel " The Kandha bhiyaaji category" – all that you end up being is a shoulder to cry on, in simple words she considers you "her girlfriend "rather than a man she can count on.A man who can give her that special feeling of not judging her,giving her space (non needy – non chipku ), caring about her,loving her ,and the list is endless man…:-)*p**p*Steps on how to be a Man:*p**p*1) Start respecting yourself and your decisions. in case your opinion differs from her view dont be afraid to tell her.*p**p*2)Have many other girls in your life ( friends , work frnds,etc) dont make her the only female you ever spend time with.The more girls you have in your life the less needy and creepy you will look and feel.*p**p*3)Every girl/guy has a type -Dont try to become that person if you naturally are not her type.Otherwise later in life she will feel cheated and make your life a disaster.Be the guy you are and your will attract women in your life who are comfortable with you.In short dont change yourself for her.*p**p*4)Have a life- go for trekking, join salsa classes ( lot of quality women there),Yoga classes, have some hobbies – playing guitar, karate, etc do what you want to do for yourself not to impress her.*p**p*5)Improve your Bodylangage and Voice quality- many books out there Google it.*p**p*6)Get fit -you dont need a gym to stay fit. I use calisthenics,Yoga,Salsa,Karate hip hop,Trekking,etc – choose what makes you happy and you can continue.Dont do something forcefully to impress girls or guys.*p**p*7)Dont push a girl to sleep with you or kiss you . Big turn off. but dont be afraid to make a move to kiss her if she is giving you the right signals.*p*

TaniaDey June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

To get out of Friends Zone is tough. You need to understand what your crush is looking for in a partner. If you believe you can make it work, there is no better way to support her/him and make her/him understand that you are perfect for her/him. *p**p*All the best! *p*

Barnali Roy June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Just be cool about it and maintain a little distance. Get yourself a couple of girl friends, and pretend to be very close with them. She will soon be wondering what has happened to you. If she changes her opinion well and good. If she remains indifferent, well, then its time for you to move on.*p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I'll give you a woman's perspective- apparently the guy is supposed to court you, but you can't court the guy if he is not interested! ;)*p**p*…at least that is what my friends tell me when I try to impress guys I get crushes on who don't want to reciprocate..*p**p*So, I don't know what to tell you! Though, I can use some advice here too.. *p**p*But most important thing I can tell you to do is to show your crush that you respect their wishes and give them time*p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Your question is a bit ambiguous- has your crush freindzoned you or do you have a crush on a friend who declined?*p**p* *p**p* *p*

Hridaan June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

You have put forward the most challenging proposition of all tme. Buddy, if you are into the war of ejecting yourself out of the friendzone and be with your crush, brace yourself, you have to play the pro-level waiting game. One thing is for certain, it wil take time but if you are sure that she is the girl, then hang on till the end. The problem is we do not have time enough to waste it on one person. But there's what the crunch part is. When we are crushing on some one we just feel like we are investing time in the right place and think about anything that will attract her attention. I realistically feel that it is possible to impress your crush and get out of the friendzone, the mantra being patience. People may come and go in her life, but when she realizes that you have been there for her in all seasons, I am pretty sure that she will bail you out of the zone. I really hope she does. *p*

Dua June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I guess try being honest? Games work initially but honesty is the best way forward. If you are in this for the long term that is. *p*

Raul Sodat Najwa June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

i agree with the time thing, but the term 'friendzone' is complicated that even people are doing everything but still as you said no reciprocation from other side. . . you are his/her best buddy, they share everything with you and still not ready to take that one serious step ahead.. *p*

Raul Sodat Najwa June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

i am telling you, i know ppl stayed in friendzoned for years, and they knew what the girl was looking for and they had that thing, but that x-factor was missing just like the algebric x, for which i spent minutes to find the value. *p**p* *p**p* *p*

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