Husband and in-laws

Many men live with their in-laws though it is considered a ‘not in line’ with the norms thing. How easy or difficult must it be for the men?

5 replies
Ranjana Kamo
August 27, 2017


  1. Hridaan, Acmaan, Manish and Satarupa,

    Culture does play a major role in how people behave in a family setup and anything going out of norm is looked at with suspicion or mockery. A loving family can make this relationship very comfortable and easy for men.

  2. Depends on how closely bonded is he with his in-laws and if there is an inherent comfort level.
    At the end of the day, it’s a choice he makes- it should not be forced.

  3. This is more of a cultural perception that is mostly generalized. Men might not feel at ease not coz of any ego issue but as a gender men might not adjust as well to norms of another family. Even though it is his wife’s. Then again, some find it uncomfy to be as relaxed and chilled at their in laws place since the latter has this Ghar ka Jamai kind of vibe. And probably, moulds are not always easy to break out off. Finances, stronghold as well as family vibes are other variable factors affecting this scenario in different cases.

  4. If in-laws are a loving and caring bunch then it shouldn’t be an issue. They are staying with their own family only. However, if there are tensions between both the families then coping must be difficult. It depends on their level of tolerance and how they handle criticism.

  5. It is difficult. The fact is at times they are being mocked at by their own in-laws. That is really very difficult to fathom. It is easy if the husband doesn’t pay much attention to the criticism but it becomes difficult if he gets mocked at by his in- laws

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