I had a huge fight with my boyfriend and we are not speaking. Who should make the first move to talk?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven weeks now. Two days back, we had a huge fight and haven’t spoken to each other since then. Should I wait for him to call or make the first move myself?

9 replies
Ashna
June 7, 2017

9 Comments

  1. Analyse carefully how the fight developed. Was it on an issue or a result of a string of small negative feeling over the last seven weeks. Wait for him to approach, if you feel he is not the right person for you. Once he calls give him a chance to clarify. Also make things clear from your side.

    If the fight was the result of ego or intolerance, born out of an issue, determine if it was your mistake, then make the first move. Or else wait for him to do so.

  2. Do you want your ego to take over the love you have for your boyfriend? No, right? So just act mature and forgive him for whatever happened because forgiving someone is tougher and that is why it is the right thing to do. He would learn it this time and next time he might make the first move. It is just about making the first move by keeping your ego aside. Hope everything gets okay.

  3. Regular quarrels are normal in relationship. Do not hesitate to make the first move if you love him.

  4. It seems to be that u had fight for the first time , so u can make the first move. But dont make it a habit.

  5. Make the first move. It is evident you want. Bad thing ego. The only regrets you will have are the moves you did not make.

  6. Mend your relation ASAP… Message him something mushy.. Like a line of an old romantic song..

  7. Arguments can be the building blocks to a strong and healthy relationship. So don’t fret so much over it. Introspect on what the fight was really about. Was it something mundane you two can move over? Or did it reflect some underlying incompatibility issue? Once your head is cleared, don’t wait for him to make the first move. You two can discuss what happened, which in my opinion would be better than pushing the matter aside.

Yes No