I often meet people who are so curious or surprised that I got married very early. Do you think there is an ideal age to get married? Who or what determines that, apart from the legal age perspective?

I am always questioned on why i got married so early and i am at a loss of words about how or why I must answer it. it got me thinking if there is an ideal age criteria? who or what determines it?

10 replies
Janani Rajagopalan
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Ayushi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Let's follow the Constitution of India for a moment. Which clearly states that a woman after the age of 18 can legally marry any man above the age of 18(21?). Anyway. This gives you the right to marry anyone after you've crossed this age when you're emotionally and physically an adult who can take their own decision. *p**p*We shouldn't let the society to always take our decisions because that's exploiting our freedom. *p**p*So, you don't have to look for an answer for why and when you got married. Let your marriage be happy and successful which is not answerable to anyone. *p*

Janani Rajagopalan June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I agree and admire your confidence. I think our society is very judgemental and are always ready to express their opinions and it is often expressed with no finesse.*p*

Janani Rajagopalan June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am


Janani Rajagopalan June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I am so glad that romance exists and you still have a great relationship with your wife. I agree, marriage comes with responsibility and definitely requires a certain level of maturity. I am very happily married to a wonderful man and I must say we have a great relationship because we respect each other as equals and I think we have a great friendship first before anything else! *p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I am still single. But I always knew what I wanted in my partner- haven't found it yet is one thing. But I don't think there is any age limit. *p**p*No matter what you do, people are going to give a judgement! Why bother?*p*

ShailGulhati June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

stay blessed janani*p*

ShailGulhati June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

i got married early too. simmi was very pretty( still is) and i was  young ! we were madly in love, and still are .i loved every minute of it. the love , the chats , the laughter, anger, fights, making up – everything! but yes, i do believe one ought to be  fairly matured to tie a lifetime knot. If all is normal in your growth, you should be wise enough by 20 if not 18 as to decide this. i am in favour of not too late a marriage. by the way you havent told us how your marriage has worked out, but i assume and hope that its been lovely.*p*

Ankeeta June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I got married when I was 25, which makes it a year ago. In less than a year of my marriage,  I  became pregnant. *p**p*You know what's the funniest part? While my friends thought that I went the family way too early some of my relatives thought that I got married at the right time but opted for motherhood too early! *p**p*I personally feel that its upto you of how you feel! One of my friends got married at 21 & gave birth to her child at 23!*p**p*In India,  marriage is such an institution that no matter what we women do,  we will always be judged.  Be it an early marriage,  giving up a or continuing a professional career or motherhood! People have to judge!*p**p*I would advise you to just smile. Be firm that you did the right thing in getting married early. You are happy & that's what should matter! Not what people think or say! *p**p*No one other than two individuals define marriage.  Any age that you are comfortable in is the right age.*p**p*"Jab miya biwi raazi, to kya karenge qaazi?" *p*

Ankeeta June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Society is finesse without any sophistication.  They will judge us for anything & everything. *p**p*Its upto us to be satisfied with what we are & have. *p*

Tall Man June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Community. Parents. And whether you are settled. But sooner the better – early bird gets the fish. *p*

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