Is feminism the cause for most marriage disputes?

Do you think feminism and feminist ideas are leading to more disputes in marriages and couples?

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Ranjini Mukherjee
June 7, 2017

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Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Sucheta Chaturvedi June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

Until society values the “unmarried” relationships as much as it does “married” relationships — including both society’s views as well as health care and taxes — than I think that marriage can’t be eliminated because it would wrongly punishes those who didn’t choose it. I think that marriage first has to be available to all — same sex couples — and the respect of marriage has to be afforded to committed relationships before we can consider
eliminating marriage. I think the family should not be eliminated but redefined.

We have done a good job of “adding” to family — making it about “more than biology” — however, we haven’t yet eliminated biology from that definition and, personally, I think that family should be an emotional bond, not a biological one. Hopefully we will begin to consider this in greater detail as more people use technology to have children.

Sucheta Chaturvedi June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

Some jaded men might sigh, “what’s the point marrying a card-carrying feminist if it’s more likely to end in divorce?” After all, who wants to endure a marriage that replaces “to have and to hold” with “to have and to henpeck?”
Perhaps the most sobering conclusion of all is this: is feminism’s take on marriage making any of us – men, women and children – any happier? And is divorce, and all the misery and familial damage this inflicts, the final hollow victory for gender equality?

Tina Acharya June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

I think so especially in urban areas because “feminism”is no more “women asserting for their genuine rights (equality) as human but has become a tool to prove “women” are superior to “men” for some ladies”.

Dua June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

There is no connection whatsoever between the two! If I ask for equality and respect in a marriage, and that causes a dispute, I must start questioning my partner!

Vineet Arora June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

If the man in a marriage is a feminist, I’m afraid that marriage would have less disputes.

Atrijit Sengupta June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

If feminism is viewed as “Advantage for females” then yes. But in the truest sense of the term, “feminism” means equality. If a marriage doesn’t assure equality, no harm in breaking it.

Ritapriya Nandy June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

Isn’t this generalising a lot?

Ram KR June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

May be, inability to understand what feminism is all about, could be the reason. The doggedness of patriarchy. The refusal to listen to the female’s viewpoint. I am speaking with India in mind. May not be true in advanced, progressed countries. In India, sadly, despite decades of sensitization through media and education, pointless, idiotic patriarchy still prevails.

Ram KR June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

Not at all! I would rather equate feminism to humanism. Feminism is therefore, not restricted to the female gender. If a wife asserting her legitimate, genuine rights, and refusing to let go of her individuality be a problem for her husband, then, the husband has a problem, and not the wife. The guy needs to change.

Dua June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

How can feminism be viewed as a cause of a dispute? If anything, its a solution. To not give in to inequality, subservience can and should not be a problem. Patriarchy , yes, I believe may be the cause of most marital disputes!

SampurnaMajumder June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

Ah! c’mon how can feminism be the cause of marital discord? Feminism uphold women’s rights and I believe there are rights within a marriage as well.

SampurnaMajumder June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

No i dont think so. It may be one of the reasons but feminism is more about women’s rights and giving them equal weightage in society

Rajat Poddar June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

Not at all! For some marriage disputes, perhaps. Bigoted men, of whom there are many in our society, find it easy to assign cause of discord to feminism.

Yasho June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

If you define ‘feminism’ as recognising the woman as a living creature with her own identity and rights and wishes, then it certainly spoils a man-centric marriage.

Navin J June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

Society values marriage and thus has made it both more socially acceptable to be married and has also provided perks to create incentives for marriage — such as health care and tax breaks. From an overall societal view marriage does more to benefit
women — just as it does men — than it does to “harm” them.

U June 8, 2017 - 8:54 am

Feminism broadly speaks of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes…. cause for most marriage dispute…. I don’t think so…. I sure would expect my husband and I share the same ideology on this,.. I think all it seeks is respect each other as humans first, man-woman later.

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