Is it acceptable to have an understanding, romantic work relationship without compromising on marriage?

Close proximity for hours between two like minded people of opposite sex – who can deny this recipe for a delectable romance brewing? Conflict happens when these two people are in a work relationship as well. The boundary between work relationship and romance is always at a risk of being fluid and shifting. If two such people meet and work for long hours on an assignment or a project, close understanding graduating to a romance seems possible. Given today’s work pressures and hours, is it acceptable to have a mutually agreeable romantic relationship with a colleague without compromising the marriage at home?

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Tapan Mozumdar
June 7, 2017

7 Comments

  1. This is a common question which is gaining more and more interpretaion in the modern sphere of things. I think we, as human beings, are not good at balancing our emotions equally between two people.When it comes to the point of engaging in a romantic relationship with a colleague, the consequence of it will directly reflect on the marriage. I believe its better to go for a relationship where you can be truthful about your emotions rather than being in a relagionship where you have to forge your feelings. *p*

  2. It depends from person to person, as far as I am concerned yes I do believe relationships work best when they can breathe in open air else they suffocate to death. Every person has the right to live their life the way they want to live, without being dictated or controlled. Every relationship / friendship plays its own role though it does sparks jealousy in most of the spouses to various degrees, sometimes jealousy leads to more loving partner as well due to fear of loss.

  3. Well it is not a problem if you’re honest to yourself. As the French always say that you can love more than one person but in different ways. At home you’re engaged in a different project while at work the scenario is different…so I don’t view this as a problem as long as you define the relationships very clearly. Like your spouse can be your late night movie watching partner while your workplace friend can be a good weekday lunch date. Make sure to enjoy with both of your “friends” and not neglect or compromise one relationship for the other!!!

  4. Rather than having a Extra Marital Affair i would suggest to discuss the problems with your partner, work on resolving it by surprises dinner, long drives, sitting & chatting at a garden, etc. Every problem has a solution, avoiding a problem is not a solution, it will aggravate the problem in next coming time.*p*Every human being needs happiness, thus if we discuss we can arrive to a solution that will be in the benefit of both the partners & their families.

  5. I don’t think its being honest to have an extra martial relationship. Yes, absolutely wonderful friendships happen and graduating it willingly or otherwise to a full bodied romance is never going to be acceptable in a marriage. How is this different than any other affair outside marriage.. By assuming that working together gives this acceptance is in my opinion just a nice way to camouflage breach of trust.. If your’e fine with that, then by all means ! *p**p*

  6. Romance at work place is becoming a common phenomenon emerging more out of convenience. Have seen many such pairs sneaking out of office for lunch outside. It adds to fun and some zing to otherwise mundane demanding life. Such relationships have no future nor life.

  7. What is acceptable and not acceptable is not clear as black and white. To each, his / her own. If they could maintain a healthy relationship with each other at work place, and if it contributes to the company's productivity rather than steaming up its closet windows, why not? There is propriety of behaviour, and then, there is acceptability of the society through the prevalent moral lens. Just focus on the former. The bottom line is, it is better to leave it to the people who involve themselves in anything, provided they don't disturb others. *p*

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