Is Monogamy really logical?

Don’t we change all through out life? Every 3-4 years we can’t believe what we were 3 years back. We are smarter. Our dreams have changed. etc. If such is life and such is the way in which we change constantly throughout life, is monogamy – the act of holding on to one partner – really logical? You were attracted to a person during a point in your life. You spent a lot of time together. You two know everything about each other and you see that you both are headed down different paths. In such a situation, does it make sense to continue with the old relationship or is it wiser to seek out a new partner who you will relate to better? Who will help you grow?

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Neetole Mitra
June 7, 2017

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  1. “You two know everything about each other and you see that you both are headed down different paths. In such a situation, does it make sense to continue with the old relationship or is it wiser to seek out a new partner who you will relate to better? Who will help you grow?”*p*This does not go against monogamy. If someone does not continue with an old relationship and seeks a new partner then it is monogamy. If someone continues with more than one relationship at the same time then it goes against monogamy. Legally polygamy is akin to adultery under Hindu law but one can obviously go for polyamoury if one eschews the bonds of marriage and preferably the partners know about it. Monogamy is more a matter of will and commitment guided by a sense of responsibility than any logical human act.

  2. No! It is not logical. But it depends on how you act on it. You feel the desire to be with someone else and it is not feasible for any human being to feel attracted to one particular person throughout his/her life. But again, how would you act on it? I write! You may discuss and express your desire to someone close to you. From my wee experience I have realised that forceful suppression of desires (be it sexual or anything else) causes much harm than indulging the act of sleeping with someone else! Would you suppress or would you express? Think about it!

  3. If you so drastically get smarter in 3 years of time then why at all you need to marry? Just be around with your smartness compatible person and keep growing without hurting anyone. there is no need to get married to someone and after three years announce to that someone ‘you are outdated and I am not growing with you.’ It might hurt that someone badly.*p*

  4. That’s a very liberal answer. Something I’d personally advocate for. But imagine for a second you really are in that situation. Would it really be so easy to make such a practical decision. Wouldn’t you all of a sudden feel tremendously selfish – that the person you claimed to have loved all this while can be discarded so easily. What’s the value left to relationships then? What’s the value of companionship and partnership? Could you yourself be discarded just as easily? I would lose faith in love for good, if this is how it turns out to be, I guess

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