Is polyamory an undeniable reality or a comfortable escape?

Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?

14 replies
Arushi Chaudhary
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Shipra Pande June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Yes people can love two people at the same time but not with the same comitment and intensity…actually it seems that you can love two people at the same time but technically it is not possible, the scale is always tilted.*p*

Ketan Mehta June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

The feeling of loving two or more peoples at the same time was existing earlier too.. That's why most of religious/mythological characters (for ex. in Ramayana/Mahabharata), kings have more than one marriage.. It was not  illegal till around 1900-1950. Thereafter, legislation was brought in India to stop more than one marriage..*p*

Ketan Mehta June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I feel that because of our mental conditioning by the culture and society, love and sex has become matter of honour, moral, and rights/authority, otherwise nothing unnatural in it. I think there is no need to deny  or to escape from it..*p*

Rakhijain June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

It is a function of a person's situation, his/her value system and also interpersonal relations. The party less affected by societal judgement tends to convince the other, 'It's alright'. The line between reality and escape is tough to discern. *p**p* *p*

Amit Shankar Saha June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Polyamory is a reality and not exactly a comfortable escape. There is a distinct differerence between being in love with more than one person and being in a relationship with more than one person.  Hence polyamory can be one-sided also. One can love more than one person without anybody knowing it and it does happen that way. Only people deny it socially because polyamory is often confused with polygamy or polyandry. *p*

AshwinaGarg June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

It is possible to be in love with two people at the same, especially if they fulfill different needs in you. Perhaps with one person you connect on a physical level and with an another on a more spiritual or emotional plane or maybe you have similar interests. Having said that, romantic relationships work best when they are exclusive. The other relationships are best kept on a friendship level. Too many romantic relationships happening at the same time suggests confusion, lack of self knowledge and commitment. They are just difficult to maintain on a daily basis.*p*

Sangeeta Menon June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

There is sometimes a good difference between the kind of person we need (has qualities that help build a strong relationship) in our life and the kind of man we want (instant attraction but perhaps brings some mismatched qualities). Love is real in both cases but is different. *p**p*Personally, I believe we are constantly making choices in our life with regard to who we "love" and remain faithful to but love itself isn't restricted to one person. For those who chose to recognize and accept their divided love it is an undeniable reality.*p*

Neha June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Falling in love with more than 1 person at the same time is a reality. It happens. Most people do not accept this fact. But I must admit, that the intensity of each of them is way different. Of the two people you love, one will be loved more than the other. One will be given more importance than the other. But again, that doesn't mean you've stopped? loving the other person. *p**p*Society today should accept this fact and understand that human emotions have evolved. Otherwise we'll only be pushing an important emotion under the carpet.*p*

JoyeetaTalukdar June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Depends.  Love and sexual desires are two different aspects of life. One can't be linked with other. Many a time one gets both the desires fulfilled from a single person so there is nothing like dissapointed or dissatisfaction then.  But in many cases the both can't be fulfilled by same. So there is nothing like running away from the situation but instead of facing it.As par polyamory can't be a undeniable reality or easy comfortable escape it's a need which one has to persue for ones mental satisfaction no matter even if rest calls ones selfish. *p*

Aman Singh June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I feel it's tough to accept everyone and get accepted by everyone at the same time. And, when you are in a romantic/sexual relationship with more than one person, I feel it becomes platonic at some level. You really can't escape from anything in this world. And, if one lover didn't help you to understand that then no matter how many strings of lovers you have, you'll still be dissatisfied and incomplete. *p*

Hridaan June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Maybe.. But when it comes to loving two or more persons at the same time, one may get extra preference. It is human behaviuor. You can never divide love equally. One is bound to get more preference. *p*

DrSanjeevTrivedi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Varies between people. Some have larger appetite than the rest. The other reason for someone to think of polymory as perfectly acceptable could be because of their mindset. People who live their lives by values laid during upbringing or by others around may, find it sinful.*p**p*Likewise for some to love their own self is difficult while someone may be absolutely comfortable loving many, because it is mostly one at a time.*p**p* *p*

Geetika Gupta June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Yes! Absolutely! We have been raised this way of being in love with one person at a time, but in reality, one can sure be in love with two people at once. It does take some time for them to realize this but eventually, I think they do. *p**p*In an extra-marital affair, sometimes because the marriage loses its spark, people find love outside marriage but sometimes people just share a strong liking for a person outside of their marriage. It may not be physical always but the emotional comfort is pretty strong and yet it doesn't imply that they don't love their spouses! They equally love them and have a special place for them in their hearts and yet there seem to someone else as well who is equally important for the person.*p**p*Yes, there was a time when I used to think one can be in love with only one person at a time, but not anymore. The feeling of loving two people at the same time does exist in the times we live in.*p**p*Cheers*p*

modernromeo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I think we first need to reasses what we call love! We can love more than one sibling, more than one child, two parents, friends…but when it comes to romantic love…all rules come in play. I do understand about security and how feeling love for another may threaten the ongoing love which it does not affect the siblig/firned etc, but the thing is when two people have been maried for 20 or 25 years what they have created can never be taken away. But a fresh romance can def spring up. So here is my take…while you can be very interested in another but it can be fundamentally different from what you feel for your spouse! *p*

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