It seems that my husband’s better half is his phone.

My husband is the Social Media Manager in a reputed firm and he being more on the intellectual problem solver kind, all the office issues are solved by him most of the time. He loves his job, loves being the problem-solver also, he needs to schedule the posts throughout the day. This time-table of his leaves him with no time at all for me. Whenever we go out, his phone continuously keeps buzzing notifying the number of impressions he received on Twitter. His WhatsApp constantly keeps vibrating as someone must have sent him a new idea to work on. The Page Manager app reminds him of the number of followers he needs to give to the page today. Being a Social Media Manager is tough, I agree but this schedule does not give us any, ‘our-time’ like we had once. Help me! 

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Antara Nandi
July 13, 2017

7 Comments

  1. Unfortunately this is all too common these days. Being a social manager is tough. He has to be on the money all the time. But do talk to him. Or better you stay glued to your phone all day and dont do any work! He might get the message! *p*

  2. One backlash of being a social media manager is that you never get a holiday. He has a lot of responsibility, yes. But there he needs to make sure that when he is with you, he keeps himself away from his phone.*p**p*I think he can delay those notifications for a time being. He may be able to gauge when the workload is a bit less and that is the time when you two should spend time with each other. He is a manager and I think he will be able to allocate his time well. *p*

  3. Asking him to keep one or two hours for himself in a day is a good suggestion. But if it is not possible for him to disconnect on weekends, then at least one day of the weekend he should just switch off from work, literally. That'll be good for you too and will also give him some rest. No matter how much you love your job, it is important to get some me time*p*

  4. Many people are facing this kind of problem where their partners are more tied up with their professional and social life and don't have any time for their partners. And this takes a toll on their relationship. Before the busy bee understands that something is going wrong, the train has already left the station. So you being the train should make the whistling noise more loudly and more frequently to catch his attention and if it still doesn't work then it's better that let him be with his social life and you find someone else who has enough time for you. *p*

  5. Dear Antara I am sure u r enjoying the perks/salary which come with his job. Respect it and yet u still crave for us time than nag him to leave his job or not give his 100 percent to the job. So that he feels as frustrated as you do now. It will be happy living together with two frustrated people living together. *p*

  6. I think the best option would be to set some rules. No phone for 1-2 hours when you two are together. It may be tough for him but he just needs to silence his phone otherwise the work will get to him as well. And he can explain the same to his office so they know not to expect an immediate reply at that time.*p*

  7. You should realize it is his job and he is not doing it for fun. And he should realize the importance of leading a balanced life. You have nothing to complain because it is not a case of infidelity. Just have a straight-forward discussion and ask him to reschedule his work in a creative way instead of taking it up as a priority all the time. Okay, updates are important and they cannot be ignored at times – then you should be close to him and enjoy his presence with a cuddle, a hug or any such expression of love instead of cribbing and demanding 100 percent attention – let him be a multi-tasking pro as well. *p*

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