Jealousy and control in relationships

Somem consider jealousy a part of romantic relationships. If our partner gives or receives too much attention from someone of the opposite gender, we are bound to get jealous. And with that comes this tendency to mark our 'territory' and control the other person. This could mean controlling the third person, but often it is controlling your partner. How fair is this and does it lead to long term harm to the relationship?

8 replies
Priya Jindal
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Antara Majumder June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

There is always a thin line between being the perfect partner and overpossesive. Striking right balance is the key.*p*

Sukanya June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

It is fine to control your partner, but stay within your boundaries. Getting attention from someone else does not mean that you have to be jealous. As long as you trust east other and give yourself space. But yes, Space does not mean someone else can come and sit there*p*

mishti upadhyay June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Yes if partner gives attention it's a concern because no spouse wants that but as far as receiving attention from someone it's fine I mean I won't feel jealous in that case one should be able to gauge why the other person showing interest ? What they want from me? *p**p*In first scenario where partner gives someone attention will harm relationship for sure unless spouse is willing to accept second place to that person in partner life.Someone else giving attention to our spouse should not have any negative effects on relation here the spouse should not get carried away if it's not the case then no harm.*p*

Priya Jindal June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

If only finding that balance was a simple task! :)*p*

Priya Jindal June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

It's true. But letting jealousy affect the relationship depends on both people involved. While some may try to make their partners jeaous, others may be too insecure and feel jealous over everything.*p*

Priya Jindal June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I also feel that if someone else is paying attention, then there is no need to be jealous. But some people feel that if the other person does not completely rebuke that attention it means they want to encourage it, which may not be the case.*p*

Priya Jindal June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

It is those boundaries that become difficult to define, especially if both partners differ.*p*

Ayushi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

A person should know when the jealousy is affecting the relationship too much. If everything your partner is doing is leading to jealousy and there are no happy moments left then I don't think that the relationship remains healthy anymore for anyone. It's very harmful and is like a mental abuse. We should learn to recognize the signs and react to it soon.*p*

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