Keeping the spark alive in long-term relationships

Have you ever seen those couples that seem crazy about each even after 10, 12, 15 years of being together? Do you aspire to be like them – what would you want to do to reignite the spark in your relationship? Are you one of those couples – What do you do in your everyday life to keep the sexual spark alive in your long-term relationship?

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Srushti Mahamuni
July 13, 2017

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  1. Just work on it. Like every other aspect of the relationship. Initially it may have been difficult to keep your hands off each other. But over time, things change. It is important to recognise that and not expect a decade long relationship to be like a 10 day old one. Not to say things will obviously get boring. But just that the couple has to find new ways to keep them interesting*p*

  2. You need to work on it constantly. Just like you need to work on keeping anything else sustained for the long term. Keep alone time aside, explore and experiment, find out what the other person is desiring and share what you want as well. It's not necessary that we do whatever the partner wants, but no one should feel judged for sharing their fantasies with their partner, neither should we feel rejected if there is something they are not comfortable doing*p*

  3. It is definitely a challenge to keep the spark alive and kicking in a long distance relationship. Thanks to technology, you can now chat your way out with your partner and feel the warmth. You can send in mushy messages and video chat during the night to share some intimate moments together. Alternatively, send songs to express your feelings for him or her. Set aside a time in the day where the two of you can be together virtually. This way you know that distance should not hinder, love takes care of everything in the end. *p*

  4. We ensure that we keep some time aside every week for each other. And other times we text or drop messages letting the other know that they are being missed a lot! And I'd say just communication. If you want to try something new, let your partner know*p*

  5. Cyber sex, phone sex, sexting, nudes exchange, you know all the basic stuff along with the real thing once in a while when both of them meet. But personally, I would not like to be in a long term relationship for over an year. I know myself and sex is a very important thing to me. Hence, either I will move my job to be with my wife, or she will understand and do the same for me. I (for sure) know that we can come to an understanding and live together. Besides sex, being with her is really important to me as she is the only person I love to talk to.*p**p* *p**p*And as far as keeping the sexual spark alive is concerened, why just long term relationship is in question? Sex life can get pretty dull even when the two partners are living together. The most important thing is to keep trying something new frequently. *p**p* *p**p*Try to explore yours, and your partner's taste every once in a while. Read, or saw something interesting? "Hmm, maybe we can try that." *p**p* *p**p*Pitch new ideas in your bed room (on webcam if you are in a long distance). Your sex life is only limited by your imagination.*p*

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