Love in your 30s and 40s

I’ve been single for a long long time. After I turned 30, I realised that I am probably going to stay single the rest of my life because dating and finding love in your 30s is way different than dating and relationships in your 20s. I have single friends who are close to 40 and older who share my views that once you’ve been single past a ‘marriageable’ age, you aren’t ready to disturb your way of life or even make the effort to meet people sometimes. What do you think about finding love after years of singlehood and in your 30s and 40s?

4 replies
Sudesna Ghosh
September 15, 2017


  1. It’s possible if you are open to love . In fact one understands love and relationships better in their 40’s.
    Nothing is impossible if your soul and heart is ready for it.
    I have friends who are in their 50s and dating.
    Life is what you make of it.
    Age is an illusion.

  2. Yes, once you get use to a way of living, you tend to do everything possible, “Not” to disturb that status of peace. But its a question you need to ask yourself, what do you want, forget what the world says, because the world says a lot of things, cliches, ideas, opinions, theories, its filled with it. Ultimately, what do i want, is the core question, thats why in a yoga class, they aren’t joking when they say, work on your core and rest will flow.. Its true.. work on what ‘you’ want. World can take a walk. Its your life, there are no time tables to follow, like this age is for marriage, this is for motherhood, this is for freaking out, this is for childs marriage,,, for life we make our own timetables.
    If you say that , i am ok like this, and do not want to disturb this status quo i have with my freedom and life, then thats it,
    Whatever you choose, is the right thing. There are no Should’s, and there shouldn’t be any should’s either.
    There is a ssaying, which is coming to my mind by Henry Ford – “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, either ways, you’re right.”

  3. If you are ready for it, then love will also be. You should give yourself that chance. Who knows, there might be someone sharing the same views until they find you?

  4. I have many friends who have entered a relationship in their late 30s and early 40s and have gotten married and are now very happy. Yes, finding a match for oneself in the 30s and 40s is tough since people tend to become rigid by then – but it finding love is a wrong term – ‘love finds you,’

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