My boyfriend’s ex is back

My current boyfriend had a bad breakup with his ex. After years she has suddenly come back in his life and says that she's sorry and wants to be friends. My boyfriend says that he cares for her as a person and she's going through a tough spot so he doesn't feel right abandoning her. I want to support him but something is making me not feel right about this. I don't know what to do!

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Raisha
June 7, 2017

7 Comments

  1. You have every right to be confused. This is indeed confusing. Even I would have said the same if I had been in your boyfriend's position. But it is important for you to gauge your boyfriend's feelings in these months. You will just understand if something is wrong. You can be supportive until your boyfriend's love towards you does not flicker. *p**p*But if you are already not feeling right about it, just have a chat with him. Tell him that you are okay with the fact that he is all helpful and supportive about her ex right now but things should not change between you two. I think you should give it some more time to know more.*p*

  2. If the ex is making you feel insecure let your boyfriend know that and he can decide what his priorities are. *p*

  3. It is not a good sign Raisha, because at the end of the day, they had feelings for each other. Again how is the realtion between you and your boyfriend. If you feel that you have a strong bond, then I am sure he will be alright. But guys tend to have soft corners, specially when they see their ex miserable. So be careful. No point crying over spilt milk. *p*

  4. I agree. For now just let things be. If I feel weird about them spending too much time together then I can tell him*p*

  5. Perhaps. I hope I am not being overly insecure when he's just trying to do the right thing. *p*

  6. Not being okay with this is completely natural. You must definitely let him know about being uncomfortable with the situation. Someone who values and respects the present relationship should not have a problem in letting go of the past. *p*

  7. if you are feeling insecure then severe this friendship right now. what they had is in the past and it should remain there. you dont have to live every day thinking whether your boyfriend is cheating on you with his ex or not. you have every right to ask your boyfriend to stop seeing his ex. not because you dont understand but for your mental peace.*p*

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