My husband gets verbally abusive when angry. Is that acceptable?

Ours was an arranged marriage but we are in love. My husband however tends to lose his mind every time we have an argument. He indulges in wxtensive verbal abuse with me. He says it is all in the heat of the moment. He does apologise for it all later but when he gets aggressive, he forgets everything else and bad mouths me. Is that acceptable? Please advise guys. Thanks.

14 replies
June 7, 2017


  1. Verbal abuse is emotional violence and even the Domestic Violence Act considers it illegal. Your husband needs anger therapy. If you live someone, getting angry is not an excuse to lash out at them. Please talk to him when he is calm that he needs to manage his anger to not harm the relationship.*p*

  2. Why argue, if it results in his losing his mind ? Think. Ask yourself if you are contributing to his drawing newer limits of indecent behaviour ? Ask yourself, can you keep quiet and avoid worsening of the situation ?

  3. I am trying really hard, Hridaan. But perhaps I am failing somewhere in the intensity of my efforts to make him realise how hurtful it is to hear him lose control over himself every time he gets angry. It’s impossible to believe that it is the same man who is the best when happy. It’s too demotivating.