My husband is always busy with the phone or do I compete with technology now??

There's hardly any time left after work and now my partner's so called 'destressing gadgets' are taking over my personal time with him…how do I solve my problems with a non living entity??

12 replies
Antara Rakesh
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Sangeeta Sinha June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

This is a issue which i personally face too and it does bother me. While discussing this issue (i would not call it a problem) somebody asked me whether i was looking for a solution to fix my husband or me. You see the solution to this issue has to come from you. One needs to do some introspection – like how much time you spend on social media…Why you find the virtual world more interesting than the real world….Is it because we don't want to face the realities of life….There could be many things….I think can write a full post on this…But the crux remains that the solution to this issue has to come from you and not from the spouse….The change has to come from you….*p*

DrSanjeevTrivedi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

A pet won't help. Your husband is too numb for simpler signal.*p**p*Bring home a friend, if possible an attractive one and preferably a male. When you are open and honest in your friendship there is no harm in chatting with someone in the cool confines of your home.*p**p*The smell of something burning, shouldn't last long. And if you are unfortunate not to smell anything burning, then anyways, you already have the remedy. Shift focus. *p*

Ayushi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Try giving him a taste of his own medicine. Don't be there when he actually wants you and be busy with the gadgets. Hope this works. If it doesn't you can just talk to him face to face and see how he reacts about his addiction. You have to make him believe that he is addicted beyond control and it's hampering his personal life. He might start controlling it after that. *p*

Hridaan June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Take the technology out of the equation. Plan something up like dinner or a long drive or anything that is not routine. I think what is lacking is the element of surprise. That is why he is taking the help of technology to escape. Spice it up!*p*

Antara Rakesh June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Shall try my hand at this too!!*p*

Antara Rakesh June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am


Antara Rakesh June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

shall definitely try these out!!*p*

Antara Rakesh June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

totally agree!! thanks for your insight!!*p*

Antara Rakesh June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Haha!! Game on!!*p*

Rohit Karir June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

1. Avoid direct blame or accusation. *p**p*2. On certain days, plan an outdoor activity, inform your friend or relative, and both of you leave your gadgets behind. *p**p*3. Be direct about what you want when he's juggling his gadgets. If it's sex or plain conversation, spell it out, so that he knows what's on your mind. *p**p*4. But if your relationship is otherwise okay, follow your interests, and let him punch buttons all he wants. You push yours.*p*

Ankeeta June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Try talking to him by asking about his day. Tell him about your day at work. Surprise him by making a special dinner or dressing up as he likes to see you. *p**p*Most importantly,  talk to him. As much as you can & whenever you can.*p*

Ashok Chhibbar June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Interseting! While technology has been a boon in most areas, its a bane for marital harmony! Laptops/iPads/tablets and Smart phones have become smarter than the human in the sense they have the capability to keep the human engaged for hours! I wonder if the husband is busy with office work, playing games or chatting with friends. It sure is a problem if communication failure between the husband and wife due to such activty leads to disharmony in a marriage. I had a similar habit and the wife would call in the children to break my habit! It has worked for me!*p**p*Best thing would be to have a frank discussion with your husband, and have a period of "No gadgets" enforced for both of you. Be it TV or smart phones or other gadgets. It is necessary to do this lest it leads to OCD – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, which in turn could be disastrous for an otherwise good marriage.*p**p*Take Care!*p**p* *p**p* *p*

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