Professional stress affecting personal life

I have many colleagues complaining of the office stress playing havoc on their personal life. Can one avoid this? Work life balance is being stressed upon a lot these days but is it achievable when you have family commitments getting affected by the extended working hours and stress at work?

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Ranjana Kamo
June 7, 2017

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Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Tina June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I think one thing to see here, is how fit/unfit people are. When my son went to College he was told there are three aspects to his life, academic, social and personal. He will be able to make peace with only two! I guess that is the reality for us to?  *p*

Utkarsh Patel June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

One way to avoid this, is not to take work home. If this is possible, then a lot of this can be avoided. In our situation, where jobs insecurity is as common as common cold, this insecurity leads to extra stress. So avoid taking work home and do keep discussing your work with your spouse. That way, s/he will understand your position/insecurity, whatever it be, and be more supportive. A supportive spouse, leads to less stress.*p**p* *p*

Sabyasachi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

One reason that makes it increasingly difficult is the fact that now-a-days we purchase everything on EMI, and loans are approved based on ability to earn the projection of which is made as per current income. But till the days of our parents most people often built the house towards retirement based on the money they would be then having, and hence not being dependent on future income. The other reason is definitely pressure to compete, whether one believes in such competition or whether it is due to pressure from the same family that also complains about you always spending time in office or on office-related work does not change the outcome. The contractualisation (and hence the impermanence) of jobs, whether at the highest level or for those on the bottom rung, deals the knock-out punch.*p*

Sabyasachi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Sometimes it might even be about saying "NO" to your boss(es) and "NO" to your spouse as well. :)*p*

Ayushi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

The only way to have success in both your personal life and professional life is to draw a line between them. It gets easier when you have an understanding wife or understanding husband and kids. Because they should realise that the absence is just temporary and family is their first priority no matter what. And it's important for the person to know how much time he should give to his work and when to get out of it if it's affecting his personal life too much.*p*

Ranjana Kamo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

So, if I understand you correctly, do not let stress control you but take it in your stride. Hmm, that is possible to an extent but in this case one will have to live with some imperfections in both professional and personal spheres. Your point of view seems valid too.*p*

Paromita Bardoloi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Easier said than done. But finally, it is all about the choices we make. There comes a time when we have to say a No, to our bosses and yes to our spouses. We all know, those breaking points. We got to choose our well being each time. For nothing else is worth losing our sanity and relationships.*p*

Ranjana Kamo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Agree, a supportive spouse and family can be very helpful. There are times when taking work home is the only option when deadlines are to be met or when people are at C level positions. Time management can help in scheduling the day so that people do not take work home but this may not be practical every day. *p*

Ranjana Kamo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I agree, but when you draw the line, you will have to be willing to burn some bridges in the process. Many people are not willing to do so and hence the heartburns.*p*

Ranjana Kamo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

You have nailed it.*p*

Ranjana Kamo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Yes, I think it finally boils down to your choices based on your priorities in life.*p*

Ranjana Kamo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

You have a point. Many of us feel we are superwomen or supermen and can handle everything but reality is different.*p*

christina June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Stress is a part of life. The movers n shakers live on anti anxiety pills. Stomach is upset take anti anxiety pills. Eye is twitching take an anti anxiety pill. So if you want to be part of the movers n shakers you will be stressed trying to please your boss/ clients and at home meeting the demands of your family who wants to be part of the high society set up. Enjoy your stress enjoy not being able to maintain a balance. It's better then having a mundane job. *p*

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