Punctual or not

I have noticed two couples where one partner is punctual and the other one has no respect for time. This leads to a lot of frustration and arguments between them. Time can really turn your life around!

6 replies
Ranjana Kamo
August 30, 2017

6 Comments

  1. Anon,

    It is good that you could change your husband’s habit and that he appreciates it too.

  2. It can be really frustrating but punctuality is not something you can make someone learn unless they experience the consequences of lack of it , the hard way.
    One can try to talk it out, show your frustration , be assertive but in the long run, you have to choose your battles wisely.

  3. Coming from an army background, punctuality comes naturally to me. However, my ex – husband and I would always end up having a tiff over the issue as he would not only be late everytime we’d to go out but also did not value the trait. This of course, vexed me but more than that it showed badly on us as a couple. I took it upon myself to change this chronic problem. The good part was, he listened as he had suffered at his work due this wrong habit. He recgonised his weakness and wanted to change. Our shifting base from India to Singapore also helped. He learnt through experience that if he failed to reach on time for his business meetings, it would not only show him in bad light but he might have to lose the business as punctuality is an inherent trait of Singaporeans. I played my part by giving him a backward count . So for example if he fixed up a meeting for 5:30 pm in the evening. I would start by asking what time is the meeting? What time he should reach? How much would be the travel time? How much time he would take to get ready? and the like. Initially, it was extremely tough to get him to agree…slowly however he saw the benefit of listening to me and today though we’re no longer together…I am happy to see him change for the better. He credits me for this turaround in him..which feels nice.

  4. Totally! I am in one such relationship, where I am the punctual one. Unfortunately for my husband, no matter what punctuality is just not possible. So I have stopped expecting it otherwise we pretty much argued everyday over him being late. Instead now when he says half an hour, I know he means 1 hour, etc. I have learned to crack the code and sync our watches!

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