Questions for arranged marriage

What are some crucial questions to ask a prospective match when meeting someone for the first time for an arranged marriage? Questions that are not intrusive yet reveal enough about the person to make an informed decision. I'd love to hear this from both the man's and the woman's perspective. Especially from people who have made the right choice after meeting someone just once or twice.

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Priya Jindal
July 13, 2017


  1. Ask them about – "Whether they like to struggle or they like easy success" or "Do you like humble people" or "How do you like to spend your weekends" or "Do you like to have breakfast together?"*p**p* *p**p*Ask some questions on that line. *p*

  2. Yes that is true, people are extremely conscious of what the 'correct' and socially acceptable views on things are and only express those. However, its hard to keep up appearances so if their answers dont match their behaviour you'll have a better understanding of who they are as a person!*p*

  3. Simply ask " If we get married, where you see our relationship after 5 years from now ? "*p**p*This can pretty much give you idea about that person's thinking about marriage, gender equality and life choices. *p*

  4. Those may help but I do feel that a person may give what they perceive to be the 'right' answer even if they don't believe in them.*p*

  5. That's true. People don't really change and it is pointless to expect them to. Thanks for the tips!*p*

  6. You could try asking their opinions on issues of gender equality, future aspirations, etc. to get a better idea of their personal ideologies and goals!*p*

  7. In India we always research the family and the prospective partner by asking about them from common acquaintances. We want to know if they have a value system like integrity and honesty.*p**p*One thing that happens very often is that we assume that we can change things about the other person. Be careful here. If there is something that you don't like about the future partner don't get involved at all. People don't change. *p**p*You need to be who you are when you are around your prospective partner and in-laws. If they expect you to drastically change your nature just run away. *p**p*Make sure that you are very comfortable around the new family.*p**p*You should have a few interests in common. *p**p*You should have similar goals for your future. *p**p*You should be able to have a good time with each other. *p*

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