Rekindling love

After years of dating and marriage, a sort of stasis has developed in our relationship. I know we both love each other but increasingly it seems like we are together because we are, not because we want to be. How do we rekindle the love in our marriage?

6 replies
Ajay
June 7, 2017

6 Comments

  1. I think you guys need to start from scratch. Visit those places that you both have been together when you were deeply in love. Try and recreate those memories. The best way to rekindle your passion is to recreate thier sources. Try and go for an occasional long drive or a weekend trip. Try to get away from the clutches of your proffesional arena. Spend  time with her and only her. I am sure the emotions are still there. It just needs to be reawakened.*p*

  2. When you have been married for a while you forget the reasons why you were attracted to your spouse. Its good to remember the various ways your spouse has added value to your life. *p**p*We get so comfortable with each other that some time we don't realize how rude we are especially when we get frustrated and tired. You should be more mindful about how you treat your spouse. *p**p*We get so lost in the daily grind that dont take out time for each other. Do things that both of you enjoy. *p**p*Be a happy and useful contributor to society. Happy people make better spouses. *p*

  3. I guess the definition of love changes with passing time. Once you have been in a long relationship you realize that you don’t even feel the need to converse anymore simply because both of you are even thinking the same things. This kind of love brings with it a sense of comfort, the acceptability of long silences without them being awkward.*p**p*However while change is inevitable, boredom is not. I suggest now is the time to pursue things individually rather than as a couple. Have you always wanted to learn to play the piano? Or did your wife want to pursue mountaineering? Find the joys that made you tick ten years earlier but you may have sacrificed them or put on a back burner simply because you wanted to be with your partner.*p**p*And once you learn something new, bring it back home. Share with each other. Discuss your victories and your failures. You will have more to talk about, more to experience and who knows you both might just discover a passion that you both share and then you can pursue it together.*p**p*I think if a relationship is getting stagnant, that stagnation is more to do with us as individuals because we don’t leave anything new for our partner to discover. All the best.*p*

  4. It's time to enjoy the company in silence, reflect on what is close to each others heart. Try to relive time gone by and create new memories too. With times priorities change and everything cannot be same. It's important to enjoy each stage of life. *p*

  5. dear ajay how much do you want to rekindle your love.Should it  turn into a raging tornedo and sweep both of u of ur feet or do want a love mundane yet always there .*p**p*The raging tornado will put your senses on fire nad extinguish  soon.Enjoy what you have ,go for a holiday come back tired ,do push up together, get tired sleep contendly with gentle snores love will always be there .to rekindle it maybe diyas instead of electric bulbs will help.*p*

  6. Do not bother about rekindling love, think of developing the friendship. Perhaps take up a hobbby together? *p*

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