Separate beds

I miss the days I had the entire bed to myself sometimes. I've tried telling my husband that sometimes I'd like to sleep on a separate bed. But he feels that a husband and wife should not be on separate beds. It's a sign of trouble in the marriage. Is that so?

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Smriti
June 7, 2017

7 Comments

  1. Please have personal space. Not only for avoiding the feeling of being invaded or for comfort but for luxury, if you can afford. Have separate bedrooms and you may find the charm in the marriage has gone up. *p**p*For the travel by train or air the difference in classes is basically of space. Will a large bed not be more comfortable ?*p**p*And you do not have to call a cab to be with each other.*p*

  2. Even though I am not married, I know one thing for certain- I can't share my bed with anyone!*p**p*Sorry, I am a single child and I am accostomed to certain amount of space..*p**p*And nowhere does the law prescribe that matrimony implies sharing of cots, mattresses. comfortors, and other items of bedding!*p*

  3. No! It's the love which matters which can be there in different beds, a single bed or even if there are no beds. Ask him to try it once or twice and see how it feels. No problem in just giving it a try. *p*

  4. Nope! I sometimes can't sleep next to my spouse because she snores! Yes, there is a sense of hmm…a little disconnect, so what i suggest is to do it once in a while. *p*

  5. Not at all dear Smriti. Even I love sleeping on a separate bed. The comforter is mine totally the space is mine and then I sleep like a baby. Imagine sharing ur bed n blanket with ur spouse especially if he suffers from gaseous problems. Best to have twin beds. *p*

  6. Do you feel that you want to sleep separately purely because you just want to be alone? Or is it due to some lack of intimacy between you two? Did it occur to you before? Or is it a recent feeling? *p**p*Ask yourself why you want to be alone at night. I think it has something more than you wanting an entire bed for yourself. But I hope I am wrong.*p*

  7. having personal space is not a big deal. intimacy doesn't mean sharing the same bed. the point is for both of you to be comfortable in your relation. be it sleeping in different beds or in different rooms. if you are happy then you can make your spouse happy too.*p**p*having said that, discuss this with your husband. try to tell him that if you are not happy with sleeping arrangements then he wont be either.*p*

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