Sex as leverage

Is it fair to use sex as leverage in a relationship? Sex by many is considered intrinsic to a romantic relationship and it is advised to keep marital problems out of the bedroom. But if one is hurt then being intimate with the person who hurt you would be tough. Would it be wrong to say no to sex then? What about using sex as a leverage to get one's partner to change their behaviour?

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Raisha
June 7, 2017

7 Comments

  1. People do use it as a leverage whenever they can. And you just can't categorize it to be good or bad. But, if you're using sex just as a leverage and not as something which is an intimate thing to bring you closer then it's wrong. But it's tough to make love if you're not in good terms with your husband at that moment. So, good sex life should be a reflection of happy married life too and not vice versa. *p*

  2. Sex is actually a tool esp in the women's hand which they use to get what they want from their men. Have read many articles on it. Will try and look for some links and post here. *p*

  3. No. Unfair to leverage it. It should be spontaneous. If that doesn't happen, do not force it.*p*

  4. Healthier  the marriage less is the space left for manipulation.*p**p*However, in reality both women and men  manipulate – women use sex as leverage to  settle scores and men tweak emotions  for getting sex. *p**p* *p*

  5. Though couples use it to bridge their differences, I would not recommend sex to be used as a tool to manage issues, which should be resolved with dialogue or other methods of communication. *p**p* *p**p*If a couple relies upon sex for sorting out differences, at a later stage, when it diminishes, they shall not only have difficulty developing communication channel but there shall also be the grudge of missing pleasure.*p*

  6. Ohh No this is disappointing and unfair to take sex as leverage. Why stake relationships on the verge of sex. Sexual relationships are emotional and physical that involves respect and trust to feel the touch. But in case some relationships hurt the major ingredients for sex then it shouldn't be carried forward and you have a full right to say NO. Yes, you say no to sex if it is hurting you and please be strong to stand on your point because here you aren't doing anything wrong. *p**p*Cheers! *p**p*Be Happy! *p*

  7. Can work both ways though. Can worsen the issue too and cause the partner to look outside too which would then be disastrous! So be careful when using a double edged sword!!*p*

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