Should we tell all in a marriage?

Open and honest communication in a marriage is crucial. But sometimes it seems not sharing a few things may be better, or even lying if necessary,for the relationship. When should one refrain from communicating?

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Ajay
June 7, 2017

8 Comments

  1. Dear Ajay *p**p*1,when u have bought that offensively expensive dress and don't want to tell him. *p**p*2Wiithot batting an eyelid u say my mom gave it to me. My grand mom actually did it so I know*p**p*When the diamond ring twinkled at u and u picked it even  though u felt horribly guilty. *p**p*When the best friends husband pressed u a bit close and u responded because u were drunk but u know in ur hearts u weren't. *p**p*When u told ur husband u have an exercise class in the evening and actually u just got drunk with friends. *p**p*When u lost a lot of money in cards and kept mum about it*p**p*things u should be open about. Politics friends affairs the children the price rise trumps policies and yogi Adityanath *p*

  2. I think the need to unburden and let the posue suffer is not really mature. I agree with you Akshata…we need to not reveal stuff which can do more harm than good just because it makes us feel light!*p*

  3. I do not buy this…telling all. In all our honesty we would be too unbearable. Why this obsession with it?  *p*

  4. Yes. A tell-all marriage may face a lot of avoidable difficulties. If things are in the past, and if they are dead issues, and they will never ever bother your life anymore, just forget and move on. If conscience pricks that much, then.. you know, open up! What else to do! That is how it is.. But I would advice you to move on. Truly. Clear hearted. But never lie. Don't hide things that will concern and affect your partner's present, and future. Never be dishonest. Just learn the intricacies of moving on.. Some dead things better remain dead. *p*

  5. I totally agree with Ajay.*p**p*Man is not loved by his wife only because he is the husband but because of the soul in him. There is a popular saying:*p**p*Satyam Bruyat Priyam Bruyannabruyat Satyampriyam*p**p*Priyam cha Nanrutam Bruyadeshah Dharmah Sanatanah*p**p*Speak true, speak what is pleasant to others, don't tell the truth which is not pleasant or which is harmful or don't speak false just because it is pleasant, that is the Dharma which is true Sanatana.*p**p*In short best avoid unpleasantness in the relationship even if you refrain from communication of the same.*p*

  6. Each of us has some secrets buried in our closet and spilling the beans will cause havoc in our life. While its important to be ope, when it comes to honesty I believe its important not to be guillable and reveal things which we feel could cause more harm than good to the relationship. Why just spouse this holds good in every relationship*p*

  7. honestly? never. sometimes their arrives a stage when you think that refraining something is better than telling your spouse. but if this is going to affect your relation in any way then it's better to tell than hide.*p*

  8. That is pure human behaviour. We tend to keep a few things to ourselves especially some little things. There are a few things which we do find negligible to share with our partners. Maybe a few things like the number of calls we get during the day can be avoided. But yes, for a relationship to be succesful communication or for that matter transparent communication is very important. I feel that whatever is going on in your mind you should be sharing it with your partner. That is how it works. You should make your feelings known so that the bridge is kept intact.*p*

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