Sometimes expectations takes a toll on a relationship.How far can this statement be true?

Long distance relationships need efforts to maintain a healthy relationship. What expectations can be considered genuine and what expectations could be a little overboard?

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Anshulika Bansal
September 19, 2017


  1. Expectations are the root cause of all misery. And thats not only in romantic relationships. Even in a client-vendor scene or parent child bond expectations are down right wrong. Conversations, contracts, and trust, may work, but in the end you have to take life as it happens, and learn to be content no matter what.

  2. Expectations are inevitable. That is what keeps you going in the end. Like – he is going to call me, right? He does rememeber it is our Skype time, right? Basic expectations are fine. Since you are far away from each other you don’t want to miss out what’s happening in the life of your partner. But you go overboard when you obsess to crunch into his life in every free time you can afford to grab.

    Keep a check on that. You should know when to give right amount of space and when to be there for each other.

    1. Hello ma’am!

      I am so grateful towards you that you took out some time from your busy schedule to reply to my discussion!
      Have a great day ahead!

  3. I understand that long-distance relationships may create a lot more expectations since meeting real meets are less. If the only reason for breaking-up is over expectations, is that a good enough excuse? The only thing you must expect of your is to be honest with you. You deserve to know when both are not on the same page. The way I see it, is that if someone is not willing to go the distance and clarify misunderstandings, he or she does not like you enough to keep the relationship going.

    1. Thank you ma’am!
      Hmmm… you are right! πŸ™‚
      Being on the same page is important in a relationship!

  4. Expectations are a part and parcel of every relationship. It is the over expectations that harm the relationships. There can be missed online dates, missed calls and delayed replies to text or online messages even in a long distance relationship, one needs to accept the reality and move on

    1. Ohh yeah!
      πŸ˜‰ Sign of ignorances are the best kind of signals shouting a person to move on! It’s just a matter of time when those shouts reach our ears! Am I right?

  5. Expectations of any kind means that disappointment is inevitable.
    The more one expects, the more one opens themselves to a heartache.
    For long distance- regular touch is important.
    Texts, video calls, phone calls- on a daily basis are a must- even if for a few minutes.
    You need to feel connected and no amount of busyness should compromise this aspect.
    Trust and faith has to be unconditional, especially in long distance.
    Expecting a person to give you a minute by minute detail of his day is unreasonable. Connection is important even thru a text.
    Also expecting a person to woo you/ fuss over you like he did when in town is a bit unreasonable too. One needs to be practical and realistic with a long distance connection.

    1. Thank you Meenu ma’am!

      You gave a detailed answer of what kind of expectations should be curbed and what kind of expectations should be demanded!!

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