Sometimes to keep peace in marriage we go accepting anything and everything. How fair is it? Swati Mehra June 7, 2017 Swati Mehra June 7, 2017 Sometimes to keep peace in marriage we go accepting anything and everything. How fair is it? 10 repliesSwati MehraJune 7, 2017 10 comments Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am Aabha Singh June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am It is not at all fair. Accepting anything and everything is completely oneself's decision. A marriage works because of perfect balance and equality. It is never a good quality to accept everything that comes your way when you do this then be ready to be run down by more expectations of accep[tance on your front.*p* Arunn Bhagavathula June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Well there's a famous saying "All is fair in love and war"! And marriage is all about love so I guess its "All is fair in marriage and war" :P*p**p*Seriously both the partners do compromise a lot to keep peace in marital life. And when that objective is achieved why label the process as fair or unfair. Whatever works…well is to be welcomed. There is a Telugu saying which roughly translates to "whatever cures is medicine"! So if lot of compromise works for both that's what the doctor ordered!*p**p*Fair or unfair if something is working then let it be. Don't over analyze or dissect it! And am sure this "acceptance and compromise" has to be from both parties and each one has to draw a line somewhere and it varies from individual to individual. What I mean is it can't be a one sided compromise. And both the partners also need their "personal space" which has to be respected by the other partner. And when one respects the others space and compromises to a large extent as long as it doesn't hurt then that would be the ideal partnership.. *p**p*In the end what matters is give and take by both partners with a delicate balance struck. *p* Rupali Tiwari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am I think the word is compromise. and somewhere along the line a little compromise is acceptable but from both the side. if one is adjusting then the other should too. there is a huge parameter about accepting anything and everything. ithink everyone is aware about their tellerance level. about what is acceptable in marriage and what is not and that is where you have to draw the line. we have to adjust in every relationship. not only marriage. even a mother and child adjusts according to each others needs. so why cant a husband and wife adjust. all you need to know is where to draw the line from adjustment to accepting everything.*p* Swati Mehra June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Exactly.. both have to come halfway to reach a comfortable settlement point..*p* Swati Mehra June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Insightful*p* Swati Mehra June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am I could not agree more but when things come down to practically taking a step, the society does not seem to be fair to seperated/divorced people. They judge and make the lives of divorcess hell!*p* Swati Mehra June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Exactly… but I think the entire concept of marriage being a thing 'forever' plays games with our minds forcing us to 'tolerate'*p* Geetika Gupta June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Initially, it seems fair because one feels right in doing so for the sake of their relationship but eventually, all of it fades away. Nothing about it stays except for the lost self-respect. You feel like carrying the entire responsibility of your relationship on your shoulders which is not fair and then there will come a day when you will be totally done with it.*p**p*Arguments sure don't sound very good but if they clear things out and make things done once and for all, then the argument is totally worth it.*p**p*Cheers*p* Darshana Shukul June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am Marriage is a similar to any other relationship. To keep the love and tenderness alive we have to give some and get some. But as an individual you need to draw a line on how much you can take. You cannot overlook your needs just to keep your marriage going. The trick is to strike a balance and that comes with time and understanding from both partners. To enjoy a good drive you need both the wheels running together.*p* RakshaBharadia June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am One must always have boundaries. What you will tolerate, what you will not. We humans have this habit, of giving more shit if the person in front is taking it. Think about it! *p* Leave a Comment Cancel ReplyYou must be logged in to post a comment. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. previous post The trust quotient next post Thinking about marital divorce and its consequences. I feel it is unfair to the kids. What say?