Space needed by a daughter in law.

I always wanted to be a good daughter-in-law and not a daughter to my mil. And I expected the same too. Not a bit more. But how much adjustment is actually appropriate? How much should a daughter in law let her mom or mil interfere in their daily lives, the life between he husband and wife?

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Sukanya Banerjee
November 3, 2017


Kajari Guha
Kajari Guha November 14, 2017 - 2:24 pm

Things have changed today.I am an MIL and a Mom to my daughter who stays with me.I always try to be easier and friendly with my DIL.,rather I frequently fight with my daughter because I have more right on her.My DIL knows me and acts accordingly.I never interfere in their personal matters. You should do your duties as DIL ,that’s all.

Shobha Mahapatra
Shobha Mahapatra November 4, 2017 - 1:38 pm

When issues concern the entire family, interference on your MIL’s part is inevitable. However, when it comes to personal matters between you and your husband, there is a boundary. Either your MIL has to be sensible enough to grant you that space, or you simply have say it to her. And, that doesn’t make you a bad daughter-in-law.

Manjari Pandey
Manjari Pandey November 3, 2017 - 10:41 pm

With no reason let either of the two interfere your personal life. Time has changed drastically now. The parameters of being a good daughter or DIL are both changed now. So, consider yourself as the sole responsible for your own personal life. You have all the right to seek privacy from both of them. You can assume how they feel into their shoes but if you actually try to fit in their shoes, you might not fit in those of your kids’ Your being ready for their talks once in a day and taking care of their health is all enough. This might seem non-sanskari to a few but dear you are going to nurture next generation kids soon. So Just be what you are.

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