The pressure of uprooting everything that I have build for myself in the past 8 years in Delhi and moving to another country coz my husband is there is killing me. Should I or shouldn’t i?

Marriage, Career and All the Pressure on Women!

8 replies
Surabhi Pandey
September 19, 2017


  1. It takes long to create something ,but it takes a minute to destroy. However life is not a commodity.Relationships are delicate. So ponder over and seek advice from your partner. Time does not stand still. The best part of your life is now .So please think about it and choose!

  2. Getting out of comfort zone is never easy.
    Listen to your heart and push yourself at the same time.
    You will know what to do.’
    All the best!

  3. Get a good Packers and Movers, Sell everything you did not use for the past six months, that includes your husband if that suits you. Only take your dogs cats other pets with you. Life is too short and temporal…live every moment with love compassion and joy.

  4. It’s a difficult choice. You have to pick your priority. If staying apart from your husband is killing you, then will your life in Delhi give you that happiness at the end of the day when you don’t see your husband beside you? Think about it. Pick wisely. But foremost, be happy with what decisions you take.

  5. If you love your husband wholeheartedly, of course you must. What’s there in a place… 8 years is not that big a time… Think of the loving moments you can spend with your husband if you are with him.

  6. Life is all about creation & destruction, letting go & holding on- go with the flow.
    Don’t go against what life is offering you. Expect miracles. It’s time to move on, don’t resist.
    I moved back from Dubai after living there for 7 years- and everything has fallen in place.
    It’s a leap of faith. You will find work, career- if you trust divine timing.
    All the best!

  7. Your worry is pretty common and understandable. After investing time and resources in building something new, there comes a time when you have to leave everything behind and move ahead. You have already once moved out of a secured place after marriage so this experience is not new. And one day we all have to leave everything behind, and leave this world. Imagine the extreme as real for once. I do not say you should stick to your place but if the relationship demands relocation, give it a second thought. You will surely get a job there and gather new experience of working in a foreign country. Look at it positively, a new phase of life that is challenging you. You need not worry about your acquisitions as you can explore options like caretakers and also go in for proper legal safeguards before doing so. If you remain here in case you find the foreign land offers no scope to keep you professionally engaged, then you should discuss the matter with your spouse. Otherwise, take the plunge and gather more material success. In the long run, you will not regret the move.

  8. This is indeed a difficult choice! I would say it depends on what is more important to you now…

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