Threesome

My husband and I have recently been discussing experimenting with our sex life and have been considering inviting a third person into the mix. I’m interested to hear if other people have also tried something like this and how did it affect your relationship afterwards. Thank you!

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Priya Vaish
September 3, 2017

10 Comments

  1. well we have done it so I think I just might give you some insights which may be more then just surmises. First of all, both of you are not going to be necessarily as excited and eager as the other one. In that case it’s advisable to first explore the idea with fantasising in bed. If fantasising another person in bed with you two leaves you awkward and conscious and guilt ridden, then you are probably still not comfortable with the idea. Give yourself some more time. It’s a major game changer in relationship. Also, just remember, anything that is new and taboo is that only for a short time. Sooner or later, it will lose the novelty factor. To generate more novelty you will descend further into more taboo and thrilling activities. It’s a never ending infinite spiral. Are you ready for entering this chakravyuha?

  2. Whatever provides pleasure and happiness without harming anyone is good. So if threesome gives pleasure feel free. Try foursome fivesome …… and many some as well. Sex is just like another activity. The number of players is your choice.

  3. It is a sensitive matter and the pleasure the threesome act provides should not be the sole basis to decide whether revving up your sex life is possible only through ménage a trois. Try out other options to send a frisson of orgasmic delight. If everything else fails to ignite or satiate, take refuge in it as the last option. Much to the chagrin, this sounds the coolest choice and the first option to exercise. And men can go to any length to convince his spouse that this is perhaps the only way to save the marriage and refresh it. Get more creative, guys. Find more power within your mind to stoke feelings of passion.

  4. At the risk of being labelled conservative or even regressive I would advise never to try the threesome experiment. It might sound exciting in the beginning but it is sure to leave behind shards which will prickle forever.

  5. If both the partners want to try it absolutely they should. It might spice up their sex life or sour it for ever . But it’s better to have loved or have had sex in a threesome or not at all. One shouldn’t have regrets. It’s like an expensive top way beyond my budget which I want to buy but if I buy it I will regret and if I don’t buy I will regret it much more. Waiting to hear if they tried and the consequences of it. I hope you will tell us Priya .

  6. Although I haven’t tried it myself, I feel that like all experiments, it is best to do the groundwork and get the fundamentals correct first. While I’m glad that both of you are open enough to share your fantasies, it is best to discuss it further and get the expectations on the same page. ‘Online visual resources’ often end up… err.. romanticizing and exaggerating the whole thing, so also go through forums and discussion boards to get a broader perspective. Every relationship has a unique set of variables – so it is difficult to predict the quality and quantity of impact it would have on the marriage. It can go either ways, but if both partners are up to it; then why not!

  7. If both husband and wife are ready to experiment, why not? Surely go ahead and enjoy the life. However if even one of you is not sure of how things will shape up, give some time to yourselves, speak up all that is hampering your mind. Once you are clear, go ahead.

  8. A heard a story recently….from a couple based in Mumbai about this. Their marital life improved significantly after they did this. They were married for 22 years!

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