Time and experience taught me to give space in my married relationship. What about you?

I would like to know your views about giving space to each other in a marriage. Do you agree that too much involvement and closeness translate into stifling of breathing space in a marriage. Don’t individuals need their freedom and privacy even in close relationships? What are the limits of personal space we need to respect? Do let me know what you think.

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Barnali Roy
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Rajika Malhotra June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Space is important in a relationship, u dont wanna suffocate…u can have different passions to pursue , some not so vital but u still want to…

Rajika Malhotra June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am
Barnali Roy June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Absolutely…particularly in today’s time and age, individuality is as much to be valued as togetherness in close relationships. I have seen many couples bickering over “why didn’t you tell me this?” or “how can you like so and so person?” Individual paths and tastes must be appreciated to make a success of marriage.

Barnali Roy June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Very well said. A relationship has its own dynamics, and each marriage differs from the other in its comfort level. Spouses learn to gauge, over time, when the other is feeling suffocated or ignored, and respond suitably. They must recognize that they exist both as individuals and as partners in a relationship.

Barnali Roy June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

That’s a very pertinent observation you have made. The analogies to astronomy, environment, and architecture throw a new light on this topic. Indeed, distance and space are vital to relationships, as too much closeness clouds the vision. The trick is to achieve the right balance.

TapanMozumdar June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Space between celestial bodies is important to have their independent paths while bound to each other. We won’t be existing perhaps if there is a ‘big collapse’ and all celestial bodies converge as one entity at a singular points. Forests let fauna flourish due to the spaces in between the grand trees and their branches. In architecture, the space between the buildings is as instrumental as the building itself for aesthetics. *p**p*Such is the case with the human relationships. To breathe, to prosper, to respect – space is needed between two persons. From a distance, we can see the other person in his / her entirety and not just as an occupant of one particular relationship.

Aarti Pathak June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I agree, personal space is vital, however close a couple may be. A couple needs to, over time find the balance that suits them both. Too much space may leave one partner feeling alone at times. And too little space is ofcourse stifling.

ShuchiSinghKalra June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Every relationship in the beginning starts off with a certain intensity and closeness but over time it is important for partners to realize that while they are walking a common path hand in hand, there are certain journeys they have to tread alone as individuals for the sake of personal satisfaction and growth. Be it your career, your hobbies, your passions or the intrinsic demands of your personality, there has to be space in a relationship to nurture all of that.

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