What is easy way to convey someone that you like them?

Can anyone tell me what is easy way to convey someone that you like them and want a platonic friendship? Don't want to be explicit and don't want to sound needy, but want to convey in dignified way that am liking you and want a frdship, I don't want to sound needy desperate clingy that the person runs away ..that person is married and am married too but I feel a need to have someone beyond my husband to talk to, just talk nothing at physical level.he looks kind of decent ,matured and understanding .

15 replies
July 13, 2017


mishti upadhyay July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am

I wish you had replied few hours back, I approached him before I could say anything properly he felt am intending for affair and he ran away ,he didn't even ping me back.I felt very bad because conversation just remained unfinished, first he felt am seeking for some counselling kind of a thing but I said I don't have anything specific to share and he took me as one wanting an affair and ran away.i felt bad doctor but now I don't want to go back and clarify my stand as it will mess up more.please reply what you think about it.*p*

DrSanjeevTrivedi July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am

 *p**p*With such a structured intent, I won't advice you to express yourself.*p**p* *p**p*Only if you are a bit more open and less self conscious you may express your desire to have him as a friend, to talk to. Please remember that women may need someone to speak to, but it is not a man's need in general, unless he has lots of free time or intentions that unfold later.*p**p* *p**p*Be brief and be straight in telling him that you feel like sharing thoughts and feelings with him. Also clarify, that you do not want it to be an affair. Chances are he may be gentle with you or else he shall politely decline by way of non participation because he does not see much, in such a relationship.*p**p* *p*

UpasanaArora July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am

Hi!*p**p*So if you ask me, the fact that you're thinking so much about sounding needy, desperate, reservations about him being married, you being married as well… It all shows that you might be feeling guilty about establishing a friendship with him. If all you want is a simple friendship, then approach him very casually, like you would to any other friend. And if you have these apprehensions, then it would be best to stay clear from the situation. *p*

mishti upadhyay July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am

Has feelings for me? What you mean by that? I am worried if takes me in other way I just see a friend in him nothing more than that.*p*

Aman Singh July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am

Just be genuine. If you're a really genuine and good to someone then it's hard to go unnoticed and there is no loss too. And you can talk about it to him. If he's really mature and has feelings for you then you'd not have to elaborate a lot. Don't keep delaying to such an extent that he gets interested in someone else or you lose interest in him.*p*

mishti upadhyay July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am

I don't know everything looks good in married life actually I always had this feeling of platonic friendship but the other person felt am interested in sex just covering it with frdship so before this two times I cut off that persons.one thing I can say I have less friends and wherever I go whichever place like college office I always have inherent aim that is to have friendship (with both gender) I forget the purpose of my joining college n office it's like that.now am not working.now the guy am talking abt I don't feel he will misunderstand me so I was thinking of approaching him.Husband may not like but will be ok if it's in very limit of genuine friendship.*p*

Shipra July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am

Why you are feeling the need to have someone other than your husband to talk to? Is something not going well in your married life? If yes, then first sort that out. There is nothing wrong in having decent friendship with anyone but your husband should be comfortable with that. If he is fine then you can directly start conversation with that person. But if you feel your husband might not take that friendship as normal, don't trouble your married life. *p*

mishti upadhyay July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am

Hmm yes, is it that obvious??*p**p*I don't know him just wish his frdship so double date concept won't work.*p*

Smriti July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am

I'd say you are entering troubled waters. Yes, you want only friendship, but we cannot deny that you two are of opposite genders and are married. Maybe try seeking that friendship in a woman. If not, how about get your partners involved. Go on double dates, then you can find two friends in him  and his wife. *p*

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