What is feminism to men?

Iread a question for women in the recent discussions aboutfeminism!Just wanted to ask- any feminist men around? And what do menthink about feminism, generally?

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Saumya Tewari
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Ankit June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

To me, Feminism means we've failed. As men, (considering the male dominant society tag) if we haven't guaranteed our women who we love and care for in different capacities an equal socio-economic status, we have failed. *p**p*Having an equal status should never even be a question, of course, there is pseudofeminism where men-hating is promoted to be dealt with. But in my view, it is absolutely natural every single human being on this planet should have equal status there should be no discrimination on the basis of gender, race, nationality or religion.*p*

Saurabh Dalal June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Thanks for raising the question. I believe that all of us carry both masculine and feminine traits- irrespective of our genders. However the masculine traits are more dominant, both due to nature and nurture, in males and vice versa for females.*p**p*To me feminism is a movement for bringing in fairness in treatment of women. SInce the unfairness has been for too long and in too many areas, feminism sometimes ends up being unfair to the guys. But that is natural. Sometimes, when the pendulum has swung to the other end, trying to push it to the center results in it swinging past the center. Rest assured , It will end up in the center eventually.*p**p*Women are regaining their positon as the primary livelihood earner as they were millions of years before, at the dawn of civilization. This phenomenon will usher in equality and fairness far more quickly then any femimist movement can do.*p**p* *p*

RamendraKumar June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I feel I am a "Feminist-Man". Just read the folowing two pieces to get connvinced : :)*p**p*https://www.bonobology.com/marriage/family-dynamics/282-a-love-shining-and-strong-like-the-steel-it-was-forged-over*p**p*https://www.bonobology.com/marriage/the-married-couple/132-hamarawala-ki-and-ka*p*

RamendraKumar June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I think the essence of feminism is treating women with respect. A great example of a feminist man is Richard Gere in 'Pretty Woman'.*p*

Arjun Awasthi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I am a feminist, but I believe in today's feminism. The feminist movement, or the second wave of feminism, was generally a non-inclusive movement, even though there were several women (and some men) of colour involved it has predominantly been seen as a western or white movement. I much prefer the third wave of feminism which is inclusive and is explicitly the social, political, and economic equality for all men and women. A man should not be judged for being a stay-at-home parent, similarly a woman should not be judged for being the breadwinner for her family. *p*

Ashok Chhibbar June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Feminism? Sometimes I wonder why is there a debate on feminsm at all? Perhaps, traditionally, women were created to procreate. Perhaps women accepted that role in the early evolutionary period of life. However, things have changed and the modern woman is emancipated enough to stake a claim to her rightful postion i.e. alongside man. While outwardly a man professes to be stronger and labels the woman as the weaker sex, in reality the woman is much more resilient. Both men and women would be incomplete without each other.*p**p*Yes, I do feel I am a feminist and strongly believe that there ought to be no discrimination on the basis of sex.*p**p* *p*

Sabyasachi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

To repeat an oft-used notion, "Sex is biological, gender is a social construct." So feminism is to me about equality in social life, sharing of repsonsibilites (and entertainment) inside and outside the house and repsecting each other's choices.*p*

Tarun Durga June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I believe "isms" exist because dichotomies exist. There is feminism because there is misogyny at the other end – action and reaction. Both are extreme, because one is more prevalent than the other. For the pendulum to stop swinging, the range needs to get narrower and that will only happen when society as a whole accepts equality of genders. Having said that, I'm very wary of token feminism – for instance – Women's Day. Why must that day exist? Should we treat women as equals only on that day? And these tokens contribute to the swing. Adding another metaphor to the mix – feminism is like a window in the wall. When there is no wall, there'll be no window. *p*

Pranjal Baruah June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

There is no male or female mind. The brain is not an organ of sex. I dont' find any field where females are lesser mortals. They are stronger, wittier and more sensible.*p*

Siddhartha Mishra June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Feminism the state of quality of being feminine. Women are the creator . Creativity flourish from them . It is very difficult to define. But in totality a wholesome approach. *p*

modernromeo June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

What a heart-warming aswer! *p*

Hridaan June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Feminism is not about what men think about women. It is about how women think about themselves. It is a theory deconstructing the masculine-feminine binaries. So, if you ask me what I think about feminism I would say that it is about equality in every field. I would really appreciate a woman who stands for her rights, who is rebellious, who is a fighter in every respect. That is what feminism is to me. A woman with guts to face the world which is hierarchised by the men. *p*

Ayushi June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I feel it should be more of equalism then feminism. But to reach equalism we need to have a little feminist approach first and then mellow it down to equalism. *p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Feminism stands for "equalism" as you put it. It does not stand for superiority of women! So, why do you think it should be mellowed down?*p**p*"Fem" root is used because women have always been disadvantaged socially. And the movement aims to bring them at the same social level.*p**p*At the same time, it wants men not to be burdened with roles set up for them too- thus bringing in equality among both sexes.*p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

That is true. Thank you!*p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Thank you!*p**p*I would like to add one more point here- respecting identity.*p**p*Parents are often told "oh, she is not your daughter, she is your son!" *p**p*How would a man feel if his parents are told " Oh, he is not your son, he is your daughter!"*p**p*Feminism does not seek to convert women into men! Or vice versa! It aims at equality of social status for both, while maintaining their individual identities.*p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Thank you Ankit! Agree with the pseudofeminism part..*p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Thanks for putting it so beautifully!*p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Thanks Tarun! That is true, women's day is not the only day for women.*p*

SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Thanks Arjun! Especially thank you for elaborationg on waves of the feminist movement…*p*

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