What makes men who cook for their partners better at romantic relationships?

Does enjoying the challenge of rustling up the perfect dish enable a man to perfect his relationship skills? In my opinion, it often does. What has your experience been? Do you think the better a man’s cooking abilities, the better he is at appreciating his partner? Or does one have no bearing on the other?

12 replies
Komal Soni
June 7, 2017


Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
Dua June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Frankly i have noticed that because of the way men in India are brought up, and, my apologies for generalising, if they know how to cook, even reasonably ok, the world around them makes them believe they are a boon to their woman. I do not think it should be a big deal if a man can cook, just like one does not make a big deal about a woman being a good cook!:)

ArchanaSharma June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Cooking is something which comes naturally. It actually feels nice to be pampered by a nicely cooked meal. If both partners are compatible and compassionate towards each other this can largely be seen as a manifestation of love and care. However today got to hear from a friend how her husband who is a chef of international repute keeps commenting how ill stuffed her kitchen is. That makes her drive hard towards perfection and interest in picking right cooking techniques. Cooking is largely an art.

RakshaBharadia June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Hahahahaha 🙂 but isn’t cooking fun?

LataS June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

My husband is a better cook than I. I believe it would be the same if I cook for him. We appreciate each other, irrespective of our culinary skills.

Komal June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Thank you so much for taking the time to write in. You raise some good points. However, the idea of this discussion is not to pit men against women or cooks against non-cooks. It is to celebrate the sentiment that goes into the act of cooking for one’s partner. And for the purpose of this argument, the partner doing the cooking happens to be the man. The cooking need not happen on a regular basis but when it does – however infrequently – does it make for a more attentive partner? My personal experience has been in the affirmative. But that is not to say that every man – or woman for that matter – MUST cook.

Komal June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Yes… sharing is caring as they say. On another note, maybe it’s time you started taking cooking classes, Tapan! 🙂

Komal June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

You are absolutely right about the need for treating men and women on par, Dua. However, setting aside the attitude of the society at large, within the confines of a private relationship, men who cook for their partners often add a zing to their relationships 🙂

TapanMozumdar June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I’d tend to agree here. I have been poor at cooking and relationships, both. There must have been a strong correlation! On a serious note, sharing work responsibilities, domestic or office work, tends to improve understanding and care for each other, which are the key foundations of a successful romantic partnership.

Naufal Khan June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Coming from being the person who loves to spend time in the kitchen, I loved cooking be it for my partner or family, it was a daily adventure for me to experiment with food. I took a serious amount of pride in cooking and ensuring it was prepared with excessive love for what I do, it kept me happy to do things for my other half. Some of the best moments happened in my kitchen where we made memories of laughter, joy, arguments and more. This was where food was the primer to keeping communication and love flowing between us. I loved furiously and gave 110% to my relationshiip just the way I invested in my craft of cooking. *p**p*The spent bottles of merlot that accompanied me and my partner during my crazy cooking sessions led to happy moments that I will cherish, every day was a new experience because I guess you learn how to prepare a dish and not fuck it up and that is where the same applies to one’s love matters, take care of it and it will take care of you. *p**p*Thats my bit coming from the cook 🙂

SHYAM June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Dono exactly… but one thing for sure..later if the man/ boy marries the girl/woman he cooked for.. he will be cooking for the rest of life.so even if you had been a excellent cook during ur single/ bachelor days, better dont reveal that u can cook..

Amit June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

Interesting question and interesting comments! *p*Let me add to the frenzy!*p**p*Let me put a few points right out: *p*- Cooking is NOT a full-time job: You don’t have to cook everyday! You can get somebody to cook (a maid, a cook, a househelp) on days you don’t feel like cooking, or you can go out and grab a quick meal or a classy dinner!*p**p*- Nobody ‘should’ know cooking: Cooking is a life-skill, but it is not a life-threatening skill if you don’t know it. It’s time we treated cooking as a choice and not a ‘duty’.*p**p*- Cooking is not about the gender (or as some might say in a different context: Who wears the pants in this relationship?): Of all the stereotypes that we need to do away with, break this one first! The best chefs in the most famous restaurants across the world are men, and the best chefs in our homes are women! (See what I did there?) Don’t raise your brows when you hear about a man who loves baking his own bread, or about a woman whose cooking skills are limited to a 2-minute dish.*p**p*- Cooking is NOT a big deal: It’s alright if you don’t know how to cook! You can get away with it 99.99% of your days on earth (Don’t venture into the wild if you don’t know cooking and you will be 100% safe!). There are other things you could be good at and let that job pay somebody, who loves cooking, to cook amazing food for you!*p**p* – Recreational cooking and cooking regularly are two different things: Don’t be after my life if I said I love cooking and I don’t cook for days together! I love cooking maybe because I want to clear my head, or maybe because I want to distract myself from a stressful situation, or maybe because I simply want to try out a new dish in the kitchen tonight! Who would love cooking chapatis every day, twice a day?*p**p*Take cooking with a ‘pinch of salt’!

Rishav Ray June 8, 2017 - 8:55 am

I have been married for sometime now and we do not necessarily care about who is cooking because it is normal to us. I love to cook and it is one of the best disaster management strategies when it comes to making up after a tiff. Jokes apart. I feel cooking should come naturally to each other. It is not that the woman is always destined to be a cook. The man should also step up and do his best. If you both know how to cook and are willing to it will help you both improve on your chemistry.*p*

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