What should you do if you REALLY like your crush?

Is it okay to try, by calling, texting, or asking out for a casual cup of coffee, or in order to not look clingy or like a chaser, keep the feelings to yourself and let go? Especially of the person you like doesn't seem too interested or is unapproachable?

27 replies
Upasana Arora
June 7, 2017

27 comments

Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:22 am
SaumyaTewari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

They made a movie about it- Rules*p**p**p*

Hridaan June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I think if you really want to make something happen you wil eventually succeed. Trust me, it is not clingy at all. I think people will appreciate it. If not then I feel its high time you move ahead. I do not feel keeping feelings from others would really help you in the future beacuse there will be this feeling of regret that may gnaw at your heart always. So its better to go down with a fight isn't it. *p*

Hridaan June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I don't think giving up without trying is an option here. I think in these cases people should give it a go because they really have nothing to lose. If you are desperately wanting to be with somebody, just tell him/her. That is the way to go. You may well know that he/she might not be interested but you are not certain either. So that is the catch. That is why I think it is important to let your crush know that you are interested. Just try before giving up altogether. It may be yes or you will not have to regret about it later.*p*

Raul Sodat Najwa June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Do something rather than not doing anything , express and act both are req*p*

Raul Sodat Najwa June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Do something rather than not doing anything , express and act both are req*p*

Lekha Menon June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Ouch, it's seriously tricky terrain! I think it's okay to try once and give subtle, very subtle hints that he is more than a crush. But boy oh boy, if you don't get the signal back, then back off! It may kill you inside but the feelings will pass. Why embarrass yourself and him? *p*

AparnnaHajirnis June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I think you should tell the opposite person how you feel.He may not reciprocate or you may not end up with him, but you wouldn't have to live with a'what if' for the rest of your life. You two can become good friends and have a laugh about it too. *p*

Amit Shankar Saha June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

The first thing to comsider is the availability of the crush – married, engaged, in a relationship or single. If single then hints of your intetest can be left for the crush to pick up. If not single then you have to weigh your ethics of breaking into his life. In this case my advice will be to let him know that you love him but also let him know that you will let him be and not intrude. Then the ball is in his court.

Amit Shankar Saha June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

The first thing to comsider is the availability of the crush – married, engaged, in a relationship or single. If single then hints of your intetest can be left for the crush to pick up. If not single then you have to weigh your ethics of breaking into his life. In this case my advice will be to let him know that you love him but also let him know that you will let him be and not intrude. Then the ball is in his court.

Andy June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

It's always good to connect. Texts, Calls, meeting over coffee etc are good ways to connect with someone and find out what they feel or how you feel after knowing the person more. Don't keep your feelings bottled up, it doesn't matter who approaches whom but yes don't go overboard. Sometimes the other person also has feelings but is too shy to approach. *p**p* *p*

TaniaDey June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

One can always try to approach the person of interest, make attempts to get to know the person better. Crushes are mostly based on attraction, and that person may not be what we think he/she is. It is always good to befriends with the person, know him/her thoroughly, before taking in plunges. And a decent try can never become clingy! Just a coffee or a lunch date maybe, and who knows it might click!*p*

abhasrao June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

To be honest i have a 3 try rule which a follow and it has worked. Ask a guy 3 times ( makes sure to give few days gap in between 1st and 2nd , 2nd and 3rd) if he really is not into you even after 3 attempts i think you should search elsewhere .this is perfectly normal cause their are a million guys out there just waiting for probably a girl just like you and it would be unwise to not give them a single chance to meet you when specially they deserve you and you derserve them. Follow the rule and i assure you will maintain your selfrespect and at the same time give feel happy moving on.*p**p* *p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Always! Action is very important. Otherwise everything goes to waste. *p**p*Thank you for your view! *p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Well, I am not sure how good it is an idea to fall for someone who is already in a committed relationship. However, matters of the heart cannot be explained! *p**p*But I agree with your view point!*p**p*Thank you! *p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Thanks Shivi! I love what you have to say. And yes, there is nothing to lose, except for the fear that you might lose something that was anyway never yours!*p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

You're right Tania. In most cases people are not sure about the person they like themselves. Are probably attracted for other reasons, but when they know the person better, they start thinking otherwise. So I guess getting to know is a good way forward.*p**p*Thanks! *p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Time to re-watch! 😉 *p**p* *p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Yes, of course! I know of so many of such cases.*p**p*Thank you! :)*p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

That is definitely a possibiltity! And I agree on being careful to not go overboard. Thanks :)*p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Thanks Ankit! But could you elaborate on the 'certain keys to success', please? :)*p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

You do make a good point here. Thanks!*p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I agree. But there are some people who aren't quite gutsy. So they feel it's better to drop hints, and wait for the other person to pick up signals and approach them on their own! But things don't always turn out the way we expect them to, right? :)*p**p*Thanks for your comment!*p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Very tricky! *p**p*You really never know how much is too much in such a situation, right?*p**p*Well, I guess it all depends on the two people involved. And the rest, on destiny! Haha!*p**p*Thanks for your input! *p*

UpasanaArora June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Thanks Abhas! That was an interesting insight. Hope after those 3 attempts something works out (for whoever it is)! :-)*p*

ShiviGoyal June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Dear, letting your heart flow where it has to be, is always recommended, be it in love of the profession. That's what I feel, But here I would suggest you confront strongly and let him know what you feel about him. At least your heart will not have a tussle between Yes and No. Or the MayBe factor. You might get an answer when you tell him your feelings or you may not. Apparently, in all the situations you will not have regret further in life. Moreover, for me relationship status, for now, doesn't matter because right now there is nothing to loose. Ethically, love can happen anywhere with anyone, but how we take it further is of course upto us. *p*

Ankit June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Those are psychological hacks that give you an advantage and you are in the driver's seat. It has to be very specific one has to customize it based on their situation. *p*

Ankit June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

So as per human psychology, we are attracted towards something that isn't coming at us directly. If you like someone and make it really obvious the tendency that they will reciprocate goes down. *p**p*While one should try with texts, calls and over a cup of coffee there are certain keys to success that you need to follow otherwise you might fall into the friendzone trap.*p*

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