What should you do if you REALLY like your crush?

Is it okay to try, by calling, texting, or asking out for a casual cup of coffee, or in order to not look clingy or like a chaser, keep the feelings to yourself and let go? Especially of the person you like doesn't seem too interested or is unapproachable?

27 replies
June 7, 2017

27 Comments

  1. The first thing to comsider is the availability of the crush – married, engaged, in a relationship or single. If single then hints of your intetest can be left for the crush to pick up. If not single then you have to weigh your ethics of breaking into his life. In this case my advice will be to let him know that you love him but also let him know that you will let him be and not intrude. Then the ball is in his court.

  2. The first thing to comsider is the availability of the crush – married, engaged, in a relationship or single. If single then hints of your intetest can be left for the crush to pick up. If not single then you have to weigh your ethics of breaking into his life. In this case my advice will be to let him know that you love him but also let him know that you will let him be and not intrude. Then the ball is in his court.

  3. It's always good to connect. Texts, Calls, meeting over coffee etc are good ways to connect with someone and find out what they feel or how you feel after knowing the person more. Don't keep your feelings bottled up, it doesn't matter who approaches whom but yes don't go overboard. Sometimes the other person also has feelings but is too shy to approach. *p**p* *p*

  4. One can always try to approach the person of interest, make attempts to get to know the person better. Crushes are mostly based on attraction, and that person may not be what we think he/she is. It is always good to befriends with the person, know him/her thoroughly, before taking in plunges. And a decent try can never become clingy! Just a coffee or a lunch date maybe, and who knows it might click!*p*

  5. To be honest i have a 3 try rule which a follow and it has worked. Ask a guy 3 times ( makes sure to give few days gap in between 1st and 2nd , 2nd and 3rd) if he really is not into you even after 3 attempts i think you should search elsewhere .this is perfectly normal cause their are a million guys out there just waiting for probably a girl just like you and it would be unwise to not give them a single chance to meet you when specially they deserve you and you derserve them. Follow the rule and i assure you will maintain your selfrespect and at the same time give feel happy moving on.*p**p* *p*

  6. Always! Action is very important. Otherwise everything goes to waste. *p**p*Thank you for your view! *p*

  7. Well, I am not sure how good it is an idea to fall for someone who is already in a committed relationship. However, matters of the heart cannot be explained! *p**p*But I agree with your view point!*p**p*Thank you! *p*

  8. Thanks Shivi! I love what you have to say. And yes, there is nothing to lose, except for the fear that you might lose something that was anyway never yours!*p*

  9. You're right Tania. In most cases people are not sure about the person they like themselves. Are probably attracted for other reasons, but when they know the person better, they start thinking otherwise. So I guess getting to know is a good way forward.*p**p*Thanks! *p*