What’s the recourse if a man finds cyber-sex including porn more engaging than the real one with his spouse?

Will it be considered infidelity if a man enjoys cyber-sex and porn more sexually pleasing and exciting than the real one with his spouse? What’s the recourse for the same if marital sex has turned too mundane and internet fills in the gap?

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Tapan Mozumdar
June 7, 2017

7 Comments

  1. If it is kind of a fetish then spouses can discuss between themselves and work around it. If it is not a fetish then it shows some kind of problem in marriage and definitely kind of infidelity

  2. No, it ought not to be considered infidelity. That’s changing the accepted meaning of the word. Virtual experiences, like sex toys, are just that – ways to imitate a real life experience with no reference to real life.

  3. No, it ought not to be considered infidelity. That’s changing the accepted meaning of the word. Virtual experiences, like sex toys, are just that – ways to imitate a real life experience with no reference to real life.

  4. Infidelity is usually understood as a violation of the marital agreement, a betrayal of one’s trust, and a threat to the marital bond. Online infidelity is a new concept and I feel a spouse will feel as betrayed, hurt and angry by online infidelity as they would if skin-to-skin adultery had taken place.*p**p*Recourse: a married couple must focus on enhancing intimacy between themselves by identifying ways by which they could spend more time together. They must think of doing joint activities that they both enjoy and can take brief vacations during weekends, as methods to enhance emotional bonding.*p*

  5. I don’t think so. We are taught that sex has to be great with one person only and that we can spice it up, but read any honest book and you will know you do not want to tear the clothes of a person for the 1000th time! I think it is fine!

  6. You see it depends. It is all conscience . Whether it is infidelity or not you ask yourself and introspect. If you feel ok , go ahead if not stay quiet. Affairs happen for various reasons. Unhappiness is the main reason , followed by boredom, lack of sexual satisfaction, revenge or being under the influence of alcohol. In this stage, the person is vulnerable to feeling sexual attraction for someone who is not his or her partner in order to fill the emptiness. Sometimes an emotional connection is enough to make the person develop strong feelings for someone new.

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